10/14/2026
This practice changed the course of my life!
Twelve years ago, I was going through one of the most challenging periods of my life.
My mother had passed away after months of hospice care at home. My work as a painter had come to an abrupt halt, years of an educational path were no longer financially possible, and my health was suffering.
It felt like so many things I’d been working toward were crumbling in front of me. I wasn’t sure what to do next, but I knew I needed to change something.
I decided to make a list of things I’d been curious about but had never explored. Some I’d wanted to experience for years, yet always had reasons for putting them off. Not enough time or money, nobody to go with, not knowing anyone there, or simply not knowing what I’d get out of it.
It was an early version of what I now call my “Joy Menu”, which was spoken by a teacher of mine in 2018
For the month of October 2014, I set aside my usual social activities. Beyond the necessities of daily life, I gave myself permission to only explore things on that list, without expectations or concern for what might come of them.
It was quite an exciting month!
I found myself exploring meditation, consciousness, different spiritual and religious traditions, and ideas about creativity. I met people, made connections, and discovered interests that I’d continue exploring for years to come.
Looking back, I can see how much that month changed the direction of my life. Many of those experiences became part of my everyday life and eventually the work I now share with others.
Just as importantly, I learned what can happen when I follow my curiosity and give myself permission to experience life without needing to know where it will lead.
I’ve shared before about creating a Joy Menu, and this Facebook Memory reminds me why I continue to practice it and encourage others to do the same.
What brings you joy? What have you been curious about but haven’t given yourself permission to explore?
Sometimes we don’t know what will bring us greater connection, aliveness, and vitality until we give ourselves the opportunity to experience something new…