10/15/2026
You were helpful, easy, successful. Adults could count on you. You knew when to stay quiet, when to pitch in, and how to avoid becoming one more thing someone had to deal with.
Maybe you felt proud of being the good kid. Maybe it also left very little room to be upset, need something, or make a mess.
Those expectations can follow you into adulthood. You apologize before asking a question. You say “whatever works for you” when you have a preference. Someone seems disappointed, and suddenly you’re scrambling to make it right.
There’s room to keep your kindness and make more room for yourself. Therapy can help you understand what being “good” required of you, and what you want to do differently now.
What did “being good” mean in your house? You can sit with that question without sharing the answer here.