09/10/2026
Last year, my son officially outgrew me. At over 6 feet tall, his strength became unmatched. During moments of rage and aggression, that strength could be terrifying.
I realized I didn’t really have a choice: I needed to get stronger.
I needed a body strong enough to be his caregiver. To protect myself, my daughters, him and those around us when things became difficult. So I started lifting.
And if I’m being transparent, sometimes I walk into the gym, see women with sculpted bodies and feel a little envious. I think, I wish I could train just for that.
But right now, I’m building the body I need. And I’m learning to celebrate that body too.
These arms are stronger when my son needs me. These legs can hold their ground. This body is becoming more capable of caring for someone I love who will likely always need me. There’s something beautiful about that kind of strength.
Over the past year, a close friend started helping me train, several friends joined the same gym, and I found myself surrounded by people who encouraged me to keep showing up. God knows I needed that.
My schedule is crazy. I’m navigating my own health issues. I could give myself 100 reasons not to go. But skipping would ultimately mean cheating myself…and most importantly, my son.
Today my trainer challenged me to make the leaderboard.
I didn’t just make it. I took FIRST PLACE in several categories. 🥹💪 And I’m not done yet…the other machines were occupied. 😂
Seeing my name up there hit differently. A year ago, my goal wasn’t a leaderboard. It was simply: become strong enough.
I’m proud of myself for continuing to show up, especially when it’s hard. But I also know I didn’t do this alone.
This year reminded me that you become the company you keep.
Surround yourself with people who challenge you. Who celebrate your growth. Who remind you what you’re capable of. Who genuinely want to see you become your best.
Stop giving your energy to people who drain you, discourage you or bring out the worst in you.
Life is too short. Choose people who make you stronger. ❤️