05/23/2026
When discussing who would survive the I said that I for sure wouldn’t. One of my friends paused, sized me up and said, “No, you would. You’d just complain the whole time.” And let me tell you, I felt f*ckin’ SEEN.
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Fast forward a few years to me giving birth to my first child. Between every contraction, I complained about how much it hurt. Why did it still hurt when I wasn’t having a contraction?! Towards the end, I started reciting the phone number to the anesthesia provider at the hospital I worked for because, if I transferred to the hospital, I wasn’t going to call the triage line, or my midwife colleague on call, or the charge nurse. I was gonna call the CRNA and tell them to meet me in the parking lot with the epidural cart. I confessed this to my midwife at home and she laughed and said, “If you really want an epidural, you know what to say.”
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And she was right. And I didn’t really want an epidural. It did hurt a lot, but I was coping, and complaining about a situation while I actively deal with it is one of my coping mechanisms. 🤷🏻♀️
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It’s said that we birth the way we live. How do you deal with stress and discomfort in your every day life (or during the zombie apocalypse)? How do you think that will (or won’t) apply in labor? Answer in the comments! *
Want to keep pulling the thread? My free guide “The Hidden Beliefs Shaping Your Birth” is a great place to start! DM me beliefs and I’ll send you the link.