Autistic Therapist

06/06/2026

Hey—
So ya’ll know I’m q***r right?
This is not new.
Specifically, I am a pansexual, demisexual sapiosexual poly/ENM-flexible q***r femme who is nonbinary meaning my pronouns are she/her or they/them, either of which are fine by me. Because I am femme and have a child, and sometimes male or masculine partners, people don’t see me as q***r. Well, I am.

It is also pride month. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

If you are bothered by me being exactly who I am, please excuse yourself from my life, friends list, timeline, etc.

06/06/2026

DBTSkills. Module: Interpersonal Effectiveness. Skill: Boundary Setting.
Some examples of boundary-setting sentences.



DBT-Dialectical Behavioural Therapy 2026, All rights reserved.

06/06/2026

Trauma-Informed Insight: The Power of the Pause

A pause is not doing nothing.

It gives adults time to breathe, students time to regulate, and everyone a better chance to choose connection before correction.

06/04/2026

On June 3rd, 1976, Allyson and I had a simultaneous vision, a mystical experience that changed our lives and our art. We sacramentally ingested L*D and lay in bed. Entering an altered state of consciousness, released from the dream of physical reality, I awakened as a glowing toroidal fountain of love energy, part of a vast Universal Mind Lattice, a matrix of interconnectedness with all beings. Duality of self and other was transcended in this infinite dimension beyond gender, beyond birth and death, a luminous cell in the body of God that felt more alive and more real than my physical body.
Opening my eyes to behold Allyson and our bedroom once again, she reported her experience as exactly mirroring my own. She had visited the same transpersonal dimension and then drew the beautiful vista into which I had just dissolved. The infinite net of spirit transformed our lives, and became the subject and focus of our art. I discovered near-death experience reports and other psychedelic experiences that related powerfully. The Sacred Mirrors series features a painting of the Universal Mind Lattice, revealing the geometric infrastructure of interconnected beings of light. All the art we have done since then has been influenced by insights from that and related visionary mystical experiences.

06/04/2026

06/03/2026

We can’t change anyone.

This could be good news or bad news for you, depending on your perspective:

1. You can’t make people change- RATS! Now you have to tolerate feeling frustrated and helpless.

2. It’s not your job or responsibility to make people change- RELIEF! If they choose not to change it’s not my fault or about me.

(Both are very valid responses.)

We can ask, plead, remind, give space, offer resources, and explain. However, people have to want to change for themselves.

If you are at a place where you are longing for someone to make changes but they aren’t, this is information regarding what the person is either unable or unwilling to do.

It’s crucial to remember we only get to make choices for our OWN lives- we have to be cautious of deferring responsibility to others for our lives….meaning many of us get stuck pleading for others to change so our life can be better. ( If THEY change then WE don’t have to make hard choices and do the uncomfortable work of following through on your boundaries.)

How is this reminder landing for you today? How much relief, how much grief?

06/02/2026

Trust isn't a feeling you either have or don't. It's something you can actually evaluate by looking at four specific things.

Consistency asks whether their words match their actions over time, not just when it's easy. Transparency asks whether you know who they actually are, or just who they perform to be. Accountability asks whether they own mistakes and actually change behavior, or just apologize repeatedly until you drop it. Reliability asks whether you can count on them during hard times, not just the convenient ones.

These four things together are what trust is built from. You can assess each one independently. And you can notice early when one of them is missing.

06/02/2026

Being the “whole body” providers that we are, that go on and on and on in your sessions about nourishing your body and listening to what it needs.

So we are bringing out the 40oz DDCO jugs to keep our water/hydration up (pretty common problem with therapists— some of us keep 4 drinks in front of us, some of us try to skate by on the sip of water from our morning vitamins 😜🤫)

Join us in a challenge to drink AT LEAST one full 40oz jug of water per day. Your body will thank you!