06/18/2026
Loving an AuDHDer (someone who is both autistic and has ADHD) is not about fixing them or changing who they are.
Often, the most meaningful forms of support are the small things that help reduce overwhelm, accommodate differences, and create a sense of safety.
For example, you can show an AuDHDer love by:
π Helping them make the text, email, or phone call they've been putting off
π Respecting their need for downtime, recovery, or alone time after socializing
π Communicating clearly and directly instead of expecting them to read between the lines
π Offering reminders with kindness rather than criticism
π Showing interest in their passions, hobbies, and special interests
π Understanding that their energy, attention, and capacity may vary from day to day
π Supporting sensory needs, whether that means leaving noisy environments, adjusting lighting, or respecting preferred clothing and foods
π Being patient when executive functioning challenges make tasks feel harder than they appear
π Accepting their authentic selves rather than expecting them to mask or hide their neurodivergent traits.
At Blue Sky Learning, our neurodiversity-affirming therapists and coaches support AuDHDers in understanding their needs, reducing shame, and building relationships rooted in authenticity and self-acceptance.
Book a free 20-minute consult at www.blueskylearning.ca
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