06/11/2026
I found this opinion from Michael Hopper, and mental health professional in Indiana. I found it so meaningful and spoken with truth and power while also addressing the common things we see each day.
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“”Pride exists because shame was enforced.
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When someone asks, "What about Straight Pride?" they are usually asking the wrong question.
The better question is:
Why did Pride need to exist at all?
Pride is not about superiority. It is about visibility after generations of shame, silence, violence, and erasure.
There is a difference between being celebrated and finally being allowed to exist out loud.
Most straight people have not had to regularly:
-Hide their spouse at work.
-Call their partner a "friend" for safety.
-Scan a room before holding hands.
-Wonder if their marriage, medical care, job, housing, or dignity will survive the next political cycle.
-Measure honesty against the risk of rejection, harassment, or violence.
-Carry the mental weight of deciding where it is safe to be fully known.
That is the context Pride responds to.
Pride is not just glitter, parades, rainbow logos, or corporations suddenly remembering inclusion has a color palette in June. Although, bold of them to remember right on schedule.
Pride exists because LGBTQ+ people have been criminalized, fired, rejected, bullied, erased, excluded, attacked, and killed. It exists because too many people were taught to feel ashamed for being alive as themselves.
And shame is not harmless.
Hiding takes a toll.
Fear takes a toll.
Constantly scanning for safety takes a toll.
The Trevor Project's 2025 U.S. National Survey found that 36% of LGBTQ+ young people seriously considered su***de in the past year, and 10% attempted su***de. That is not because they are LGBTQ+. It is because shame, rejection, fear, and isolation are heavy things to survive.
So no, Pride is not saying:
"We're better than you."
It is saying:
"We are still here."
That is not an attack on straight people. It is a response to everything that tried to make LGBTQ+ people disappear.
Straight allies are welcome. Truly. But walking into Pride Month asking, "What about me?" is like showing up to someone else's birthday party and complaining your name is not on the cake.
Sometimes support is simple:
Be glad someone survived long enough to be seen. Then help make sure they never have to hide again.
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