09/06/2026
โจ ๐ง๐ฅ๐จ๐ฆ๐ง๐๐ก๐ ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ฅ ๐ข๐ช๐ก ๐๐ก๐ข๐ช๐๐ก๐ โจ
Have you ever felt something was offโand then talked yourself out of it?
I have. More times than Iโd like to admit.
I used to think discernment was about figuring other people out, but now Iโm not so sure.
I think itโs really about learning to read my own signalsโknowing which ones are mine and which ones were imprinted on me a long time ago.
Hereโs what keeps happening:
Iโll feel something is off, and Iโll talk myself right out of it.
โYouโre overthinking.โ
โGive them room.โ
โYou donโt have all the facts.โ
And sometimes thatโs true.
But other times?
๐๐โ๐ ๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ๐น๐น. ๐๐โ๐ ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ-๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ดโgiving so much room to others that I forget to trust myself.
๐ซ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ถ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ป๐บ๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐ท๐๐๐ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ผ๐ฝ๐น๐ฒ-๐ฝ๐น๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ฎ ๐ต๐ฎ๐น๐ผ.
Not every pinch in my chest is wisdom. Sometimes itโs just an old bruise getting pressed.
Sometimes someone reminds me of a person from years back, and Iโm not even responding to them anymoreโIโm responding to a memory that hasnโt quite finished with me.
So Iโm learning to slow down.
๐ก๐ผ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ท๐๐ฑ๐ด๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ, ๐ฏ๐๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ด๐ฒ๐ ๐ฐ๐๐ฟ๐ถ๐ผ๐๐.
Instead of asking, โCan I trust this?โ Iโve started asking:
๐ญ โWhat is this feeling trying to show me?โ
Sometimes itโs pointing at real behavior worth paying attention to.
Other times, itโs pointing at a fear I havenโt named or a story I havenโt closed.
๐๐ผ๐๐ต ๐บ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ.
Hereโs what Iโve come to hold as a ground rule:
๐๐ณ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ฟ๐ถ๐ด๐ด๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ ๐๐ผ๐, ๐ถ๐โ๐ ๐ฝ๐ผ๐ถ๐ป๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ถ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐โ๐ ๐ฎ๐๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฎ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด.
Not because the other person is blameless, and not because youโre making things up.
But because your reactionโthe charge behind itโis yours to deal with.
And until you do, youโll keep watching the same movie with different actors.
So when something hits hard, I donโt talk myself out of it anymoreโand I donโt rush to figure out whoโs right and whoโs wrong.
I just pause.
And I practice.
For me, that practice has a name.
Thereโs an ancient Hawaiian practice called ๐๐ผโ๐ผ๐ฝ๐ผ๐ป๐ผ๐ฝ๐ผ๐ป๐ผ that I keep coming back to.
Four little phrases:
๐ฟ ๐โ๐ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฌ.
๐ฟ ๐ฃ๐๐๐๐ฆ๐ ๐๐ข๐ฅ๐๐๐ฉ๐ ๐ ๐.
๐ฟ ๐ง๐๐๐ก๐ ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ.
๐ฟ ๐ ๐๐ข๐ฉ๐ ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ.
Not for them.
๐๐ผ๐ฟ ๐บ๐ฒ.
For whatever got stirred up. For the part of me still hauling around something I didnโt even know was there.
Iโve seen it work too many times to blow it off.
๐๐ ๐ฐ๐น๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด.
๐๐ ๐พ๐๐ถ๐ฒ๐๐ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด.
And from that quieter place, I can actually seeโnot what Iโm scared of, not what Iโm bracing forโbut whatโs actually in front of me.
Like when I catch myself overexplaining to someone who never asked.
๐ง๐ต๐ฎ๐โ๐ ๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐ถ๐ป๐๐๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป. ๐ง๐ต๐ฎ๐โ๐ ๐ท๐๐๐ ๐ฎ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ถ๐.
I teach Hoโoponopono if you want to learn it. Reach outโletโs talk. Youโll thank me. ๐
But even just sitting with those four phrases on your own?
๐ง๐ต๐ฎ๐โ๐ ๐ฎ ๐๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐.
This isnโt about putting up walls or expecting the worst.
Itโs about getting honest enough with myself to tell intuition apart from fearโand whatโs really happening from what Iโve been trained to expect.
Over time, relationships get less exhausting.
I stop decoding every text and replaying every conversation. I simply notice how I consistently feel around someoneโnot on their best day or their worst, but over time.
And honestly?
Iโm still figuring it out.
๐๐๐ ๐โ๐บ ๐ด๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฎ๐ ๐ถ๐.
Does any of this hit home?
Reply and tell meโI actually want to know.
Or, if youโre curious about Hoโoponopono and want to learn more, reach out. Letโs talk.
Love always,
Susie โค๏ธ
www.susieadcock.com