Your Therapist Friend

Your Therapist Friend Psychotherapist-led Support Circle for survivors
Helping you feel seen, heard and whole after Narcissistic Abuse
Your safe space is here - Join for FREE!

https://linktr.ee/narcissisticabusehealingcircle

05/07/2026

If setting a boundary makes you feel guilty…
that doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.

It means you were conditioned to put others before yourself.

💔 You were taught:
• Saying no is selfish
• Speaking up creates conflict
• Your needs are “too much”
• Keeping the peace matters more than your peace

So now, every time you choose yourself…
your mind sounds the alarm.

That guilt?
It’s not your truth.
It’s a learned response from a time you had to abandon yourself to stay connected.

Healthy boundaries don’t destroy relationships.
They reveal which ones were built on your self-abandonment.

And yes, learning to set them without guilt takes support, practice, and safe spaces.

You don’t have to unlearn this alone.

💬 If you want to heal, rebuild your self-worth, and learn to set boundaries without guilt, comment “Support” to join our weekly support group for narcissistic abuse recovery.

You’re allowed to choose yourself!

healingjourney peoplepleasing nocontact grouptherapy mentalhealthsupport

05/03/2026

You’re about to go out for a birthday, a family dinner, a big event-something you were actually looking forward to.
You’re getting ready, maybe running a little late, trying to make sure everything goes well…

And suddenly… something shifts.

“You’re really wearing that?”
A passive-aggressive comment out of nowhere... bringing up an old issue right as you’re about to leave, or worse… that cold, sudden silence!

Suddenly, you’re not excited anymore. You’re:
- explaining yourself.
- replaying what you said.
- trying to fix the tension.

You start thinking:
Did I do something wrong?
Should I just stay back?
Am I being insensitive?
And by the time you reach the event… the joy is gone.

You’re sitting in the car, quiet.
Fixing your face in the mirror.
Trying not to cry.
Telling yourself, “Just act normal.”

You walk in… and you’re carrying their mood, their words, their tension.
Meanwhile, surprisingly, they’re completely fine.
Laughing with your friends.
Chatting with your family.
Acting like nothing happened 20 minutes ago.

From the outside, it looks like:
They’re easy, calm, put-together..and you’re quiet, distant, off.

But no one saw what happened before you walked in.

And that’s the point.
They know you won’t create a scene at a party or dinner.
So they upset you just enough, right before-
so you walk in shaken, and they walk in in control.

Over time, this changes things.
You start dreading plans you once loved.
You feel anxious before even simple outings.
You mentally prepare for a fight before getting dressed.

That’s not coincidence.
That’s narcissistic control.

And the most painful part?
You slowly stop letting yourself feel excited…
because somehow, it never feels safe to.

Save this so you don’t forget what’s really happening.
Share it with someone who needs this clarity.
Comment “RECOVERY” if you’re ready to understand this deeper and start making sense of what you’ve been experiencing.

Repost

Address

United States Of America
Washington D.C., DC

Website

Alerts

Be the first to know and let us send you an email when Your Therapist Friend posts news and promotions. Your email address will not be used for any other purpose, and you can unsubscribe at any time.

Shortcuts

Share

Category