06/04/2026
"Thank you for not judging me and letting me be human."
Peeps, please listen.
No one knows what walking in your shoes is like. As providers, we should be doing our best to understand this, and to tailor plans to the patient (not squish the patient into a pre-made plan). But even if we try, we still don't live it, and are still making some assumptions on your daily capacity of what you can do/have energy/time/resources for.
And sometimes we are wrong.
If a plan isn't sustainable for you, you aren't failing. If a plan is too strict and causing you anxiety, it is time to ease up. Think of setting out for a destination across town. You might choose the most efficient route (as a provider might try). But we can all appreciate that there are 163,802 ways to get to that destination. Need a detour? A different approach? No shame in that. You still get to the same place, but maybe the timeline looks different.
But the only way you get redirected and back on track, is to have a moment of vulnerability and transparency with your provider. Tell them what works, what doesn't, and have a session together to brainstorm how to make it work better for you. Because that's right: we work for you!
PS: If they are a jerk about it, say Bye. No bullies in healthcare.
PPS: If you are ever given a plan that looks like an owner's manual to a car, an inch thick and told you better do everything perfectly or your body will not heal. Run. Health does not have to be this complicated. And healing shouldn't make you feel like a failure.
All the love to you peeps, today. If it ain't working for you, tweak it.