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left photo I was 34, middle photo 36, currently 42 turning 43 in September this year.2018 changed my life forever.After ...
05/29/2026

left photo I was 34, middle photo 36, currently 42 turning 43 in September this year.

2018 changed my life forever.
After my hysterectomy due to endometriosis, my body went through a massive shift. Within a year I had reached 246 lbs — double my weight. What I didn’t know then was that underneath it all were diagnoses waiting to be uncovered: dysautonomia, MS, ADHD-PI, and then in 2023, carcinoid cancer added another major storm to my health journey. Years of chronic stress, inflammation, oxidative stress, hormonal imbalance, and survival mode had taken a toll on my body.

This journey has been filled with being a “guinea pig” — testing medications, treatments, supportive supplements, mental therapies, nutrition changes, and learning how to move my body in ways that build strength gently and intentionally for my postmenopausal stage of life.

And through all of it, I’ve learned this:

Ladies, please do not wait until your health declines to start listening to your body.
Be proactive, not reactive.
Advocate. Advocate. ADVOCATE.

For every symptom. Every ache. Every strange sensation. Every energy shift. Every gut feeling. Every emotional or physical change. You are the one living inside your body every single day.

“The no pasa nada.”
“It’ll go away.”
Those words can silence the warning signs your body is trying to give you.

Listen to your body.
Protect your peace.
Pay attention to the vibes, the fatigue, the pain, the swelling, the mental exhaustion, the things that feel “off.” Your voice matters. Your health matters. YOU matter.

Healing is not linear, but every intentional step counts. 🤍

05/21/2026

People can inspire you. Faith can plant the thought. But strength comes from choosing to do the work. Every plank, every hold, every painful repetition — I had to show up for it. Even with limitations, I listen to my body, trust my intuition, and keep going anyway.

And this doesn’t apply only physically — it applies emotionally and to every part of life. Healing, growth, boundaries, peace, resilience… none of it happens by brushing things under the rug. We have to commit to doing the inner work to become better, healthier versions of ourselves and choose to surround ourselves with people who uplift us instead of drain us. ✨💪

8 years of meal prepping, baking at home, and choosing to eat in 95% of the time.Not because it’s trendy—because it work...
05/05/2026

8 years of meal prepping, baking at home, and choosing to eat in 95% of the time.

Not because it’s trendy—because it works.

It’s helped us:
• Save money consistently instead of overspending on convenience
• Know exactly what goes into our food
• Adjust meals to what our bodies actually need
• Reduce waste and make the most out of every ingredient
• Stay grounded in our health without extremes

This isn’t about perfection. Some weeks are simple, some are stretched, some are creative.
But over time, those small, repeated choices built stability—for our finances and our well-being.

Health isn’t just what you eat.
It’s how you prepare, how you plan, and how you sustain it long term.

And for us, this is what sustainable looks like.

04/27/2026

I used to dance under lights, chasing a feeling I thought lived out there…
but mirame now.

Now I dance in my kitchen while the food is cooking,
in my living room between laundry loads,
out in my yard with bees, butterflies, y colibríes flying around me like they know… this is peace.

This is the version of me that chose vida real over validation.
No crowd. No spotlight. No performance.
Solo yo—moving freely in a home filled with love, laughter, and a little bit of chaos.

Healing didn’t come to me in silence…
it came like this—
laughing too loud, dancing off beat, being wacky, weird, y completamente libre.

I don’t need the club anymore.
No necesito impresionar a nadie.
The energy I was searching for out there… I built it right here.

With my people.
With my space.
With my pace.
With my peace.

This is joy that doesn’t ask for permission.
This is happiness that doesn’t need validation.

Y si me ves bailando sola en mi casa… just know—
I’m not alone.

I’m finally home. 💫

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04/22/2026

Intentional movement over mindless motion.

Lately, I’ve been grounding myself in Pilates + TRX — not to punish my body, but to understand it.

Slow.
Controlled.
Connected.

Every breath has purpose.
Every movement is deliberate.
Every rep is about stability, not speed.

This is where strength feels different…
It’s not loud or rushed — it’s steady, aware, and deeply rooted.

I’m not chasing exhaustion anymore.
I’m building resilience.
I’m honoring my nervous system.
I’m moving with intention.

Strong doesn’t have to be chaotic.
Strong can be calm. 🌿



🌿 Putting Them Together (Intentional Flow)
When I combine Pilates + TRX, I get:
Core-first movement (Pilates) + full-body strength (TRX)
Nervous system regulation + muscular activation
Low-impact but highly effective training

⚖️ Important for my body
With dysautonomia, fatigue, GI, bladder, glucose, and blood pressure challenges: I'm
prioritizing slow transitions
Keeping sessions short (10–35 min) but consistent
Stopping before exhaustion—leaving some energy in the tank
Focusing on breath pacing to prevent dizziness
Hydration + electrolytes before movement help me.
🔥 The mindset shift
This isn’t about burning calories—it’s about:
Rebuilding trust with my body
Improving/balancing circulation and stability.
Supporting my nervous system
Intentional movement = healing movement.

°Pilates
Focus on breath + core connection (deep abdominal + pelvic floor)

Emphasizes alignment and spinal stability

Helps calm an overactive nervous system (important with dysautonomia)

°TRX uses body weight and instability to activate more muscles—especially the core.

Encourages joint stability + balance

I can adjust intensity by changing my angle
Great for functional strength (real-life movement patterns)
Works well when done slowly and intentionally

Builds strength without overwhelming fatigue

A small garden this year—but don’t mistake small for weak 🌿This is power. This is life rising.Green babies growing, fed ...
04/18/2026

A small garden this year—but don’t mistake small for weak 🌿
This is power. This is life rising.

Green babies growing, fed by sun, soil, and spirit
Every leaf a reminder: I am still here, still becoming

Hands in the dirt, reclaiming my rhythm
Rooted, grounded, aligned with something ancient

Mama Earth provides in the way she knows—raw, real, unapologetic
And I receive it with reverence, with fire, with gratitude 🔥

From root to table, from struggle to nourishment
This is not just growth—this is healing, this is rebirth
This is me remembering who I am

I want to share something honestly because lately I’ve been feeling really dismissed. If you've been following me the pa...
04/09/2026

I want to share something honestly because lately I’ve been feeling really dismissed. If you've been following me the past 5-18 years of my journey, you have seen the changes and challenges that I've had to adapt to. You don't know the every second, every minute, every day impact. But hear me out on something that I used to do on my own time.

I’ve had to step back from hikes, runs, and even walks over a few miles—not because I don’t want to be active, but because my body has become unpredictable. I deal with bladder and bowel flares, temperature dysregulation, pain, and fatigue. When it hits, it’s not something I can “push through” or control.
So when people joke and say things that might be funny to them, it's not for me. I know it might seem harmless—but it actually minimizes what I’m going through. This isn’t about convenience. It’s about managing a real medical condition and trying to function safely.
I’ve had to adjust my life in ways that aren’t always visible, and I’m doing my best to stay active within limits that protect my health. That means staying closer to bathrooms, keeping outings shorter, and listening to my body even when it’s frustrating.
What I need isn’t jokes or comparisons—it’s understanding.
If you’re in my life, your support means everything. Even just respecting my limits without questioning them goes a long way.

This is a truth that I've learned the past several years.
People who haven’t experienced loss of bodily control often default to humor or minimization because they don’t understand how serious it is.
That doesn’t make it okay—but it explains why it keeps happening.

It’s not an overreaction. It’s what happens when your real medical limitations are treated like preferences or quirks.
With Dysautonomia, your body isn’t just being “difficult”—it’s literally misregulating things most people take for granted:
*bladder urgency
*bowel unpredictability
* body temperature control
*blood pressure and fatigue
*tachycardia to bradycardia
So when someone jokes, they’re unknowingly dismissing a loss of control I didn’t choose. That’s frustrating, and honestly… it makes me feel more isolated.
This hits so deeply
It’s not just about the bathroom comment. It’s:
I've had to shrink my world (no more long hikes, runs, being outdoors too long, going on long drives, going to the beach without a care, often like before...)
I'm constantly planning around symptoms.

I don't owe anyone a full medical explanation. I share openly because I know I'm not the only one who has to deal with such remarks, but I decided not to continue to be silent. Most chronic ill patients are still quiet because they're afraid of retaliation from friends and family members. I'm past that level, and I speak up with no shame anymore. I wish it were that simple. In the past, I had a degree of control, and I would push myself so much, yet not knowing I was putting my body onto higher chronic stress. My condition doesn’t give me that kind of control anymore.

Thank you for hearing me 🤍

01/20/2026

FACTS!

Someone asked me how is that my hormones affect me so much and although in treatment I'm still unwell. Explaining is har...
01/18/2026

Someone asked me how is that my hormones affect me so much and although in treatment I'm still unwell. Explaining is hard yet I've had to learn to research myself, advocate for myself and do trial in error. I've had to use labwork, studying it and listening to my body’s reactions and symptoms to understand better. Its going to be a long explanation so please bear with me. Below is a timeline of what I remember feeling and happening with my system.

Reactive Hypoglycemia & Hormonal Regulation

Visual Timeline of Progression

đź§’ Adolescence (Age ~13)

Early signs begin
Shakiness, weakness, lightheadedness after meals
Strong reactions to sugar or refined carbs
Labeled as "sensitive," "anxious," or "low blood sugar"

Underlying physiology (unrecognized):
High insulin sensitivity
Early autonomic imbalance
Puberty-related hormone swings amplifying insulin response

🧑 Early Adulthood (20s–30s)
Pattern becomes ingrained
Need to eat frequently to avoid crashes
Brain fog or fatigue after meals
Weight becomes harder to predict
What’s happening:

Repeated insulin overshoot → glucose drops faster than normal
Counter‑regulatory hormones compensate (cortisol, adrenaline)
Body learns a "stress-based" glucose rescue pattern

⚕️ Midlife Hormonal Shifts (Late 30s–Early 40s)
Symptoms escalate
Crashes occur with even moderate carbs
Longer recovery after episodes
Increased fatigue, aches, and cognitive slowing

Contributors:
Declining testosterone
Estrogen signaling changes
Reduced metabolic flexibility

đź§  Dysautonomia Diagnosis
Regulation failure becomes visible
Insulin release timing becomes exaggerated
Glucagon & adrenaline responses are delayed or blunted
Blood pressure and glucose instability overlap

Result:
Faster drops
Stronger symptoms
Less warning before crashes

🧪 Thyroid Changes (Low‑Range T3)
Loss of metabolic buffering
Slower liver glucose release
Reduced mitochondrial energy production
Greater dependence on insulin-driven glucose control

Effect:
Insulin overshoot becomes harder to recover from
Crashes feel deeper and last longer

🧬 Present Day – Compounded System Stress
Multiple systems affected at once
Reactive hypoglycemia
Dysautonomia
Low testosterone
Low‑range T3

Clinical reality:
Glucose spikes → insulin dumps → rapid crashes
Poor autonomic rescue
Hormones no longer stabilize the system

🔑 Takeaway
This is not new, behavioral, or dietary failure.
It is a lifelong regulatory pattern that worsened as hormonal and autonomic backup systems declined.

Treatment must address timing, buffering, and hormonal context — not just carbohydrate intake.

“Clinical reality” what actually happens in real patients like me, not what should happen in theory, textbooks, or ideal guidelines.

In practical terms, clinical reality includes:
Messy overlaps: People rarely have one isolated issue. Symptoms overlap (for me: thyroid, testosterone, dysautonomia, fatigue, digestion).
Labs ≠ lived experience: Numbers can be “normal” while patients like myself feel awful, or mildly abnormal but clinically significant.
Individual response matters: Two people with the same labs can respond very differently to the same treatment.
Delayed or partial answers: Medicine often works by ruling things out and adjusting over time, not instant clarity.
System limits: Short appointments, siloed specialists, insurance constraints, and conservative prescribing affect care.
Risk–benefit decisions: Providers balance symptom relief against safety, even when evidence is incomplete—especially in women and complex cases.

The body doesn’t treat these as separate systems
In real patients, these three are interdependent energy and regulation systems:
Thyroid = cellular energy production
Testosterone = tissue repair, muscle tone, neurotransmitter support, motivation
Autonomic nervous system (dysautonomia) = blood pressure, heart rate, digestion, temperature, stress response
When one is off, the others compensate → then burn out.

2. What actually happens clinically (the cascade)
Step 1: Thyroid inefficiency (even “borderline”)
Low T3 or poor T4→T3 conversion = cells can’t use oxygen efficiently
Result:
Fatigue
Brain fog
Cold intolerance
Slow digestion
Clinical reality:
Endocrinology often says “labs are normal,” but tissue-level hypothyroidism still exists—especially in chronic illness.

Step 2: Testosterone drops as a downstream effect
Low cellular energy signals the body to down-regulate reproductive and anabolic hormones.
Testosterone falls to conserve energy
Muscle tone decreases → worse venous return
Neurotransmitters (dopamine, serotonin modulation) drop
Real-world symptoms:
Emotional flattening or numbness
Low libido (often last to recover)
Joint aches
Reduced exercise tolerance
Clinical reality:
Providers may treat testosterone alone, but if thyroid and ANS aren’t addressed, response is partial.

Step 3: Dysautonomia amplifies everything
Dysautonomia causes:
Poor blood flow to gut, brain, muscles
Low or unstable blood pressure
Impaired hormone delivery to tissues
This leads to:
Meds “not working as expected”
Delayed benefit from hormones
Worsening fatigue after treatment changes
Clinical reality:
Patients are told:
“Give it time”
when the real issue is delivery and regulation, not dosage.

3. Why treatment feels slow or uneven
In real care:
Thyroid meds may improve labs but not stamina
Testosterone may improve mood but not energy
BP meds help standing but worsen fatigue
GI symptoms persist despite “normal tests”
This is because:
Hormones require adequate circulation
Circulation requires autonomic stability
Autonomic stability requires energy availability (thyroid + androgens)
It’s a loop.

4. Why women are especially affected
Clinical reality (and bias):
Women’s androgen deficiency is under-recognized
Symptoms are attributed to anxiety, aging, or stress
“Normal ranges” are based on male or population averages, not functional thresholds
So care becomes:
Fragmented
Conservative
Symptom-chasing instead of system-level

5. What actually helps in real-world management
The patients who improve usually have care that:
Looks at patterns, not single labs
Treats thyroid optimization, not just TSH
Uses low, steady testosterone (not cycling)
Accounts for dysautonomia (hydration, salt, compression, pacing)
Accepts that improvement is layered and slow
Progress often looks like:
Sleep improves first
Mood stabilizes
Brain fog lifts
Then physical stamina returns
Libido last

6. The hardest clinical truth
You can have:
“Acceptable” labs
Multiple specialists
Active treatment
…and still feel unwell until the systems are treated together.

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