Jake White Healing LLC

06/17/2026

I had a really hard time in public education. I struggled with memory retention, processing information, reading, and test taking. I was often the last to finish a test and felt an overwhelming amount of pressure and shame throughout school.

Over time, I fell into patterns of shame and freeze. I felt inadequate and hopeless, so I stopped trying. I would fall asleep in class or stare off into the distance while lessons continued around me. My nervous system was overwhelmed, so I froze and disappeared.

If an environment keeps making us feel alone, worthless, and wrong, sometimes we separate from it to survive.

My girlfriend Elli who is now my wife was the one person who brought relief. She helped me write papers, supported me with grammar, and saw me as intelligent despite my struggles. Her unconditional love helped me get through education.

When I started learning energy medicine, a huge weight lifted. For the first time, I realized I was never stupid or deficient—traditional education simply wasn’t serving me. I needed an environment where I could be emotional, expressive, creative, and learn through experience.
My heart opened, and I could see that my shame and freeze responses had been helping me survive.

Sometimes shame, vigilance, freeze, and disconnection are not signs that something is wrong with us—they can be signs that an environment is wrong for us. We are meant to expand, feel hope, and connect with environments that nurture us.

If you’ve felt shame, consider that you may have been surviving in an environment that was never right for you. It’s okay to let go of that shame now, you do not have to force yourself to conform to others, and you can choose environments that will love and nurture you. This love and connection is the opposite of shame.

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06/15/2026

I think we have to work on validation, awareness, and present processing of feelings and emotions. Our goal is to develop more space for our present experience rather than finding ways of changing or altering ourselves.

Maybe instead of fixing a difficult emotion you could validate that the feeling is really big. Maybe instead of judging yourself as broken you could try to be more present for your experience. You may be able to validate a feeling of fear rather than trying to find solutions.

Feelings can feel so big and threatening and it makes sense that we would try to make them go away through fixing or changing ourselves.

Now we can find a new approach that revolves around validation, being present, and staying with big feelings. This helps us build capacity which leads to more acceptance and support of emotions.

Big feelings are actually looking for more space to be held, felt, and experienced.

06/12/2026

The sensations in relation to trauma is an experience in the body that is harsh and destabilizing. Trauma is an experience that was too big and overwhelming to process.

When we feel a bodily reaction to stress it can actually feel like death. We unconsciously avoid these feelings because we do not know that we will survive them.

For example I can’t feel an intense experience of shame because it relates to a little boy who was alone and isolated. For a little boy this experience felt like dieing. It was so vulnerable and so destabilizing for his little nervous system.

In my present I may avoid my emotions or push away my pain so I appear less vulnerable. My emotions are still held as a harsh edge that I avoid and push away.

If I learn how to be with my sensations and feel the tightness in my throat and the overwhelm in my belly then I learn how to safely be with my nervous system. I learn to navigate my feelings. Over time it’s this movement through the felt sense that begins to soften my reactions. Instead of always feeling exposed and weak I may actually feel strong, open, and even proud of myself.

Trauma is like a rock in a stream that becomes a smooth surface when we learn to embrace our feelings and sensations.

06/10/2026

We see it all over Instagram: “Trauma is located in your body,” “The body keeps the score,” “Follow your body’s sensations,” and “Be in your body.”Sometimes we don’t realize that these instructions don’t actually show someone how to follow sensation or notice their felt sense.

I have had times in my life when I simply could not be present with myself. I was so dysregulated that I felt completely hijacked by my autonomic nervous system.
I wish someone could have sat down next to me and said, “Jake, you are really dysregulated right now, and I would like you to notice your hands. Feel the sensations in your hands. Do you notice how your hands are a little less activated?

Maybe we can then notice your chest and stomach, where you are feeling your panic and fear. This is really hard to experience right now because your nervous system is trying to react to external threats, and this is why you are constantly thinking about the things that you are afraid of.

As you feel more regulated, you will be able to feel your body and its sensations.Let’s try to simply go between your hands and your chest. Any amount of noticing your sensations is creating a process of being in your body with your stress response.”

For me, this type of instruction would have been so helpful because it would have taught me how to be with my fear. I also would have had someone with me in my fear, helping me feel safer with my body’s experience.
I would have been able to notice that the fear was a tightening in my throat and a contraction in my abdomen. I would have been able to find more anchoring in my body and less focus on the mental aspect of my anxiety and worry.

I’m sure I would have gone back to my worried thoughts and panic, but I also would have had a slightly calmer experience in my body that would have helped me feel a little more grounded and centered.

I encourage you to try this practice as a practical tool for being present with your body’s sensations.

06/09/2026

I don’t think I have taken the time to share my background with the people the follow my content.
I have studied Somatic Experiencing, DARe, and energy medicine and growing up on a farm has been the most influential aspect of my education. My nervous system developed around farming and the animals we took care of.

The most influential aspect of a farm is the use of regulation, power, slowness, aggression, and compassion. When you approach a horse you move slow, you reach out a hand, and you gently throw the lead over their neck.

When I was a little boy and herded cattle I was taught to be loud and to push the cow through aggression.

When I tended to a sick calf my mom would tell me to stay quiet and allow them to feel settled. Farming now influences how I show up for my own nervous system state. I slow myself down when I feel anxious, I take long moments to pause to follow a bodily sensation, and I lift my posture when I feel rejection or shame. I treat my own nervous the way that I learned to relate to the nervous systems on my farm.

What I love about farming and somatic experiencing is feeling connected to these animals and connected to nature. I feel anxious like a cow when it gets cornered in a fence, settled when I’m close to someone I love, I feel shame like a border collie when I am scolded.

I feel honored to be alive and connected to nature through my bodies sensations. Trauma creates an experience of disconnection from our body. We mobilize to protect ourselves and have to disconnect from the present to survive. So many of us suffer from feeling isolated, burdened, stuck, trapped, and powerless. I think that animals, nature, and our own sensations can help us to learn to feel connected again. To see the present experience of the nervous system as a path back to our body. Farming always pointed me back to my physical body to relate through my feelings and emotions.

When I work with clients I help them to relate to their nervous system and to rediscover a deep connection with themselves and nature. To resource the slowness, power, compassion, and regulation that always present in their bodies.

06/04/2026

Capacity is creating space for fear and anxiety to exist. Through capacity, we can experience stress and include these feelings as a part of life. The nervous system actually becomes more resilient through processing the physical responses of fear, anxiety, and stress.
When we experience difficult feelings, we may feel vulnerable, sensitive, or exposed. We may perceive that this experience makes us weaker or more vulnerable. When we have tools, support, and guidance to navigate difficult feelings in the nervous system, we can learn how to slowly process stress.

In relation to stress, capacity grows. For example, I may develop more space and strength in my physical body to process stress. When I feel activation, I bring attention to my chest and abdomen and feel the soft and gentle sensations in my body that are present with these feelings.

I may also utilize awareness to hold my feelings. My awareness stays with difficult sensations and does not abandon them.

Capacity may also develop through trusting others to support me. I may share my feelings and rely on a relational space for support. This gives me room to articulate my feelings rather than hold them inside.
We spend so much energy trying to reject, control, and manage difficult emotions. We may not realize that one of the simplest things we can do is create more space for our feelings to exist and rely on our bodies to process our emotions.

I find it really relieving to know that acceptance and having more space to be myself can bring more regulation to the nervous system. We are all searching for more capacity for our feelings and emotions to be safely felt and processed

06/02/2026

A lot of times agency can create guilt and shame. We need personal space and distance from others but this triggers dynamics around attachment. We feel that agency will threaten attachment. Guilt keeps us in attachment rather than staying with our agency.

Sometimes we have to stay with the need to push something away and say no. Feeling the mobilized energy that protects us. Staying with this mobilized energy of self protection without suppressing through guilt or shame.

This can lead to a sense of power, confidence, and freedom. It also helps us to feel less burdened and overwhelmed in relationships. We end up being more present and more capable of love and caring for others. Sometimes we need to honor the need for separation and distance in order to love and connect.

06/01/2026

I almost never use the word safety in sessions. In my last video I talked about the nervous system releasing stress through safety. This can be a little misleading because safety is actually a bodily response in relation to our experience. Safety can be the heart rate slowing, the shoulders dropping, or movements of the hands slowing. In private sessions we don’t identify this as safety, we simply notice the felt experience of the body.

If we create the expectation that we should be feeling safe then we may override the current state of the nervous system. Somatic experiencing is based around traumatic stress creating such a big reaction that the nervous system immobilizes through freeze. Meaning the sympathetic reaction of fight or flight becomes suppressed within the body.

If we talk about a past event we may notice the heart rate elevating or tightening through the throat. This energy may be the fight or flight response that may have been immobilized through freeze. In session we are following the fight or flights response of the nervous system rather than trying to regulate or feel safer.

We may observe that through noticing tension in the throat we may then notice more ease and lightness. We can observe that responses of activation are connected to the feeling of settling. This is what needs to be followed in the nervous system.

The goal is not to feel safe it’s to notice and feel the cycles of life energy within the body. Cycles of activation and settling, expansion and contraction, separation and connection. Maybe capacity and safety comes from the willingness to experience these natural cycles of life.

05/29/2026

05/28/2026

Today try to accept your sensations. See your dysregulation as a part of yourself that can be present and exist. A lot of times what we think is too much, wrong, or bad is actually in need of connection and love.

We tend to cut ourselves off from the stability, love, and connection that the nervous system needs. Give your fear and anxieties space to exist in your body and support your body through your awareness. This will help you feel accepted rather than rejected.