Jake White Healing LLC

06/04/2026

Capacity is creating space for fear and anxiety to exist. Through capacity, we can experience stress and include these feelings as a part of life. The nervous system actually becomes more resilient through processing the physical responses of fear, anxiety, and stress.
When we experience difficult feelings, we may feel vulnerable, sensitive, or exposed. We may perceive that this experience makes us weaker or more vulnerable. When we have tools, support, and guidance to navigate difficult feelings in the nervous system, we can learn how to slowly process stress.

In relation to stress, capacity grows. For example, I may develop more space and strength in my physical body to process stress. When I feel activation, I bring attention to my chest and abdomen and feel the soft and gentle sensations in my body that are present with these feelings.

I may also utilize awareness to hold my feelings. My awareness stays with difficult sensations and does not abandon them.

Capacity may also develop through trusting others to support me. I may share my feelings and rely on a relational space for support. This gives me room to articulate my feelings rather than hold them inside.
We spend so much energy trying to reject, control, and manage difficult emotions. We may not realize that one of the simplest things we can do is create more space for our feelings to exist and rely on our bodies to process our emotions.

I find it really relieving to know that acceptance and having more space to be myself can bring more regulation to the nervous system. We are all searching for more capacity for our feelings and emotions to be safely felt and processed

06/02/2026

A lot of times agency can create guilt and shame. We need personal space and distance from others but this triggers dynamics around attachment. We feel that agency will threaten attachment. Guilt keeps us in attachment rather than staying with our agency.

Sometimes we have to stay with the need to push something away and say no. Feeling the mobilized energy that protects us. Staying with this mobilized energy of self protection without suppressing through guilt or shame.

This can lead to a sense of power, confidence, and freedom. It also helps us to feel less burdened and overwhelmed in relationships. We end up being more present and more capable of love and caring for others. Sometimes we need to honor the need for separation and distance in order to love and connect.

06/01/2026

I almost never use the word safety in sessions. In my last video I talked about the nervous system releasing stress through safety. This can be a little misleading because safety is actually a bodily response in relation to our experience. Safety can be the heart rate slowing, the shoulders dropping, or movements of the hands slowing. In private sessions we don’t identify this as safety, we simply notice the felt experience of the body.

If we create the expectation that we should be feeling safe then we may override the current state of the nervous system. Somatic experiencing is based around traumatic stress creating such a big reaction that the nervous system immobilizes through freeze. Meaning the sympathetic reaction of fight or flight becomes suppressed within the body.

If we talk about a past event we may notice the heart rate elevating or tightening through the throat. This energy may be the fight or flight response that may have been immobilized through freeze. In session we are following the fight or flights response of the nervous system rather than trying to regulate or feel safer.

We may observe that through noticing tension in the throat we may then notice more ease and lightness. We can observe that responses of activation are connected to the feeling of settling. This is what needs to be followed in the nervous system.

The goal is not to feel safe it’s to notice and feel the cycles of life energy within the body. Cycles of activation and settling, expansion and contraction, separation and connection. Maybe capacity and safety comes from the willingness to experience these natural cycles of life.

05/29/2026

05/28/2026

Today try to accept your sensations. See your dysregulation as a part of yourself that can be present and exist. A lot of times what we think is too much, wrong, or bad is actually in need of connection and love.

We tend to cut ourselves off from the stability, love, and connection that the nervous system needs. Give your fear and anxieties space to exist in your body and support your body through your awareness. This will help you feel accepted rather than rejected.

05/27/2026

Growing my capacity over time has been a really simple practice. I hold my stress response with awareness. When my kids are yelling and throwing things I notice the energy in my shoulders, when I feel disappointed at work I notice my abdomen tighten, and when I feel failure I notice my stomach twist.

I am aware of how my body holds and contains this stress. My body is designed to process these feelings in the present moment.

Capacity is the holding of sensations in the present moment. Through capacity I feel more control and more present through life.

When you feel stressed resource your body and hold and contain your sensations. This will bring more safety and stability to your experience of life.

05/25/2026

One of the key components to healing is space and direction. Harsh experiences of the past create protective reactions in the nervous system. These protective reactions are designed to move us away from the present threat and into safety.

When safety is present the heart rate slows, we breathe deeper, our muscles relax, and our posture settles. The regulated rhythm of the parasympathetic nervous system slows the heart rate and organizes the nervous system around safety.

The slowing of the heart rate stops the production of stress hormones. This is why we begin to shake, tremble, and take deep breaths after a traumatic situation. The nervous system has arrived in safety and the sympathetic response is discharged.

In a somatic experiencing session there may be a sensation of fear and activation in the throat. This may relate to experiences of abuse of violence. Through noticing this sensation and through having a practitioner present with the client’s feelings they may experience a sensation of lightening and easing.

They may notice a softening in the throat and an open space through their heart. Having a stable presence with them through an activated feeling in the nervous system triggered the parasympathetic nervous system. The rhythm of connection, support, and presence stimulated the heart and the easing into the felt experience of safety.

Remember that the rhythms of your heart can soothe the harshness of your past. Your nervous system is designed to let go through safety. I would recommend trying to find the environments that help you feel safe and that know how to be with you during fear, stress, or overwhelm. This will help to support the rhythms of the heart that soothe and settle the harshness of the past.

05/22/2026

This is a picture of me as a one year old. I love this picture because it is a reminder of the importance of connection.

Before my nervous system moved through any experience of trauma there was this movement toward connection and social engagement. In this one year olds body I see love, brightness, happiness, existence, and safety.

There have been experiences in my past that dimmed this light, that pulled me away from safety, and suppressed my joy. I do feel that my personal healing journey has been about reestablishing this connection.

Learning how to be with my bodies tension, clenching, overwhelm, looking away, and collapsing. Knowing that these experiences were the response to the trauma of my present and past. When I learned to feel this protective and reactive energy it allowed for my nervous system to release its stress. I then found more ease, more capacity to feel my emotions, and more settling and softening in the nervous system.

I also started to feel joy again and a natural state of openness and sharing. It felt safer to look people in the eyes again and reach out for connection. Deep inside my nervous system I rediscovered this little boy who lived through his heart.

We all have this need for connection and love. We all hold inside of us the biological need to reach out and connect. Healing the nervous is a process of working through the protective energy in relation to trauma so we can now live through connection and co regulation.

I am so happy that I can feel closer to this little boy and feel the depth of his connection to love and life.

05/21/2026

A short video on the need to resource connection to pull the nervous system out of fight, flight, and freeze.

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05/20/2026

One of the reasons we do not reach out for support is because of the fear of someone not being there. In states of dysregulation we often pull back, contract, look away, and brace.

The opposite of this pulling away would be opening, softening, warmth, and expansion of the nervous system. This warmth of co regulation is what allows the release of the fight, flight, and freeze patterns.

We may feel the relief of having someone there and the freedom to share and express our true and authentic feelings. When we share and a regulated nervous system is present with us it can reinforce an emotional pattern of being seen and welcomed.

Separation and fear is a really restricted container compared to the co regulation of another safe and supportive nervous system.

We can always begin to reinforce this capacity to connect even when others are not present. We can look around our environment, open our hands, open our chest, and place our feet on the ground. We can feel the expansion of the nervous system as we take up a little more space.

We can then bring more awareness to the body to check in with our internal experience.

Regulation of the nervous system is really dependent on connection and the reestablishing of the rhythms of co regulation.