04/28/2022
I feel like crying.
As would say, “the f**kery needs to stop.”
Sitting in the hallway, 6 months pregnant myself, waiting to be “allowed” to see my clients. Waiting here at Cedars-Sinai] unable to join my client who is in the OR having twins. A sudden change in her birth plan shuffled her plans for a vaginal delivery, to a cesarean section.
I’m not allowed in.
I would be allowed in for a vaginal delivery, but not a cesarean.
Families who have cesareans deserve support. I’ve been working with this client since she was in the beginning stages of her second trimester, but for some reason I’m not considered a vital support birth in her birth here.
She didn’t meet her nurses or anesthesiologist until today. They don’t know where she’s from, or how her and husband met.
We spoke to everyone we could. She wrote a letter to the board. We advocated with the anesthesiology team, the charge nurse, the OB.
“No visitors allowed in the OR.”
But, I’m not a visitor. I’m her Doula. I’ve spent hours in prenatals with her, combing over a birth plan, weighing out her options, walking her through what to expect, holding her hand when she felt overwhelmed with sudden news. I sat by her side at 6am this morning and doing breath work with her when they prepped her and inserted her IV.
I hugged her tight and told her “you’re going to be okay. I’m going to be right outside. I’ll see you soon. I won’t leave.”
To the medical team, it’s just another day, and you’re just another person having a cesarean. “You’re one of six today!” Said the nurse.
But, to the “patient,” my client…the birthing person, it’s arguably the biggest day of her life.
Client care — client advocacy — your birthing experience, you have a say. When you weigh out your options, consider this experience. Today is one of many cesareans for the team. But for me, and my client, it was a formative experience, that could have made a world of difference to have another trusted person in her birthing environment.
, Tarzana Providence (a Cedar’s affiliated hospital!!!), St. John’s, and many more Los Angeles hospitals are allowing Doulas back in the OR…
What gives Cedars-Sinai] ?