Abbie Ames Counseling LLC

Abbie Ames Counseling LLC EMDR therapy for women and moms in Columbus and across Ohio.

One of the most common things I witness as a therapist for millennial moms is...Constant apologizing. 😮‍💨And not for har...
06/12/2026

One of the most common things I witness as a therapist for millennial moms is...

Constant apologizing. 😮‍💨

And not for harmful things. For existing as a human with needs.

“I’m sorry I’m late.”
“I’m sorry I’m crying.”
“I’m sorry I need to use the restroom.”
“I’m sorry I can’t make that time work.”

A lot of millennial moms were raised to believe being easy = being lovable.

So now even normal human needs come wrapped in guilt. 🫠

Most moms don’t even realize how automatic this has become until someone points it out.

It's not a personality flaw, but conditioning, and thankfully those patterns CAN change. 💪

If you saw yourself in more than one of these, that’s usually a sign your nervous system could use support too.

👩‍💻 Learn more about working with me at the link in my bio.

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*All information on this account is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not clinical advice or a replacement for mental health care or therapy.

The hottest thing a partner can say is: “I already took care of it”. 💪😮‍💨Not because moms can’t do it all...Because cons...
06/10/2026

The hottest thing a partner can say is: “I already took care of it”. 💪😮‍💨

Not because moms can’t do it all...

Because constantly being the one who has to:
→ Remember everything
→ Anticipate needs
→ Plan ahead
→ Manage logistics
→ Mentally track everyone’s lives
.. is exhausting. 🙃

Real partnership isn’t “helping mom", it’s shared responsibility.

It’s someone else noticing what needs to be done without needing to be managed first.

That kind of support changes how your nervous system moves through the day.

You feel less alone in it.

🫶 Tag the partner who says “I already took care of it” and immediately lowers your blood pressure.

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*All information on this account is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not clinical advice or a replacement for mental health care or therapy.

06/08/2026

We grew up on: girl power, independence, overachievement and being “good at everything”.

While some of that was empowering…

Nobody really taught us how to rest, ask for help, have limits or to exist without constantly proving our worth. 🙃

So now, a lot of millennial moms feel like they’re failing if they can’t manage everything and look emotionally okay while doing it.

Meanwhile... motherhood is asking your nervous system to function under constant demand, noise, touch, responsibility, and pressure.

😅 No amount of Spice Girls, gel pens, or Lisa Frank folders prepared us for THAT.

Did anyone else grow up thinking being “good at everything” was the goal?

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*All information on this account is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not clinical advice or a replacement for mental health care or therapy.

You were told it takes a village…While also somehow being expected to do everything yourself. 😤That contradiction is a h...
06/05/2026

You were told it takes a village…

While also somehow being expected to do everything yourself. 😤

That contradiction is a huge reason so many moms feel completely maxed out all the time.

A lot of us are parenting without:
→ Built-in family support
→ Actual downtime
→ Shared emotional labor
→ Affordable help
→ Space to recover

But WITH:
→ Constant stimulation
→ Constant pressure
→ Social media telling us how to parent “correctly”
→ Invisible mental load
→ The emotional weight of trying to break cycles while raising tiny humans

Millennial moms aren’t “bad at coping”, the expectations changed dramatically.

Which is why so many moms feel overstimulated, emotionally exhausted, and like they’re failing even when they’re trying incredibly hard. 😮‍💨

🫶 Follow along if you’re trying to raise emotionally healthy kids without completely abandoning yourself in the process.

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*All information on this account is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not clinical advice or a replacement for mental health care or therapy.

I know a lot of millennial moms struggle to actually believe that. 🫶Most of us grew up learning productivity first, rest...
06/03/2026

I know a lot of millennial moms struggle to actually believe that. 🫶

Most of us grew up learning productivity first, rest later.

We were told to "keep going", "don’t be lazy", and to "push through it".

Now, even when your body is exhausted, your brain is still trying to convince you that you haven’t earned rest yet. 😮‍💨

Your nervous system was never meant to function in constant survival mode.

You are allowed to:
→ Sit down before everything is done
→ Ask for help
→ Take breaks without justifying them
→ Need rest before burnout forces it on you

Rest isn’t something you unlock after proving your worth.

🤯 It’s a basic human need.

What’s something you wish moms were allowed to say out loud more often?

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*All information on this account is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not clinical advice or a replacement for mental health care or therapy.

06/01/2026

Nothing prepares your nervous system for the amount of constant interruption that comes with motherhood. 😅

Someone always needs something, is touching you, or yelling “mom” from another room like it’s an emergency when they literally just want a snack.

😮‍💨 It’s a lot.

No wonder so many moms feel overstimulated all the time.

🤔 As a mom, what horror story would you add to this list?

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*All information on this account is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not clinical advice or a replacement for mental health care or therapy.

If your nervous system feels fried, try something surprisingly simple...And no, it's not another tool, or another mindse...
05/29/2026

If your nervous system feels fried, try something surprisingly simple...

And no, it's not another tool, or another mindset shift.

🤔 It's something familiar.

A nostalgic reset is going back to something that once felt safe, light, or easy.

Before everything started feeling so heavy.

It might be:
→ A comfort show you’ve seen a hundred times.
→ Music you had on repeat in a different season of life.
→ A snack, smell, or routine that instantly feels familiar.
→ Even something like coloring, gaming, or a childhood hobby you forgot you loved.

It's grounding, because your brain recognizes it faster than it can analyze it.

You’re giving your system something it already knows how to settle into.

❤️ What’s something from your childhood you still love?

*All information on this account is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not clinical advice or a replacement for mental health care or therapy."

05/27/2026

Crying because one day I won’t randomly find a stuffed Luigi riding shotgun. 😭

Or Batman Legos in places they definitely don't belong.

Right now, it feels like clutter, like one more thing to pick up.

But it’s also evidence of a life that’s very full.

Of imaginations that don’t stay in one room, of little hands that carry their favorite things everywhere, of a season that’s loud, messy, and constantly in motion.

🥹 And one day it won’t be, at least not in the same way.

Which is a weird kind of heartbreak no one really prepares you for. ❤️

*All information on this account is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not clinical advice or a replacement for mental health care or therapy.

Grief has a way of moving in waves.Some days it sits quietly in the background… And other days it rises without warning,...
05/25/2026

Grief has a way of moving in waves.

Some days it sits quietly in the background…

And other days it rises without warning, especially on days like today.

You don’t have to make meaning out of everything you feel.

You don’t have to force perspective, gratitude, or closure.

🫶 Just letting it be here, without pushing it away, can be enough.

If today feels heavy, you don’t have to carry it quietly.

❤️ And if you feel called to, you’re welcome to share their name in the comments as a way to honor them.

*All information on this account is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not clinical advice or a replacement for mental health care or therapy."

That immediate guilt you feel after you set a boundary can feel loud and convincing.But believe it or not, it’s not a si...
05/22/2026

That immediate guilt you feel after you set a boundary can feel loud and convincing.

But believe it or not, it’s not a sign you made the wrong choice. 🤯

It’s actually your nervous system reacting to the possibility of disconnection.

If you were conditioned to keep connection by accommodating others, your system learned that “no” can feel unsafe, even when it’s healthy.

In the moment after you set a boundary, try this:
→ Pause before you respond to the guilt.
→ Name it: “This is guilt, not danger.”
→ Bring your attention back to your body (slow exhale, hand on chest, feet on the ground).

Instead of immediately fixing the discomfort by taking the boundary back, you start teaching your system that you can feel this and stay here anyway.

💪 And over time, that reaction gets quieter.

If you’re realizing this isn’t just “bad boundaries” but a deeper nervous system pattern, this is exactly the kind of work we do in EMDR therapy.

✨ More info is in the link in my bio.

*All information on this account is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not clinical advice or a replacement for mental health care or therapy."

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