Natalie Carranceja Coaching

Natalie Carranceja Coaching Helping incredible women heal from insecurity + self doubt, so they can feel confident in their relationship, experiencing more bliss + less conflict.

Natalie is a Confidence Expert, NLP LifeCoach and host of The Choosing Confidence Podcast. As a woman who has been through the darkness within her own relationship, Natalie is now passionate about helping incredible women feel secure and confident within their own relationships. She shows women how to elevate their own unique version of confidence by revealing to them how to become emotionally elegant and intentional with their communication, allowing them to experience more bliss and less conflict inside their relationships. Being so obsessed with the subconscious and hacking the mind, Natalie loves to infuse this passion and understanding into everything she does, so women around the globe can feel empowered and determined to create their own incredible breakthroughs.

09/08/2026

My husband went camping with his friends for the night. I stayed home, as I had a workshop to run the next morning.

Normally, this would have sent me into a full spiral. My mind would convince me he’s cheating. Finding someone better. Deciding to end things.

And normally, I’d text him and start a fight over something small. All fuelled by my insecurity. It wasn’t healthy and I knew that even while doing it.

But that night was different. I made a pact with myself before he even left that I wasn’t going to lean into the old pattern. I was going to sit with the discomfort instead of acting on it.

So I put on Love Island, ate popcorn and choccy, and held steady through it, even when the discomfort felt almost unbearable. So many times I wanted to grab my phone and text him something sharp. I didn’t 🎉

The steadiness felt like weights in my feet. Something keeping me grounded so I didn’t get swept up.

When he came home, I felt SO proud of myself. I hugged him, and after asking is his night was…I shared how mine went. All the deets. I shared with so much clarity about the fear of abandonment, the insecurity, all of it, but from a grounded place.

It was a beautiful convo, because he didn’t feel attacked and I felt seen. He was shocked this was even happening for me, and so empathetic. We built a plan together for how I could share these feelings going forward, right when they happen, so I feel understood and he doesn’t feel blindsided.

I felt really empowered being honest and grounded with him about what was going on in my head.

Here’s the piece that made the difference. I didn’t share it mid-spiral. I shared it AFTER I’d moved through the emotional experience on my own first.

That’s the practice. Feel it fully, on your own terms, before you bring it to your partner. So what you bring them is the grounded truth, not the reactive one.

Inside UNSHAKABLE, a two part masterclass starting Sept 27th, I am teaching you how to hold steady through really difficult emotions, so you’re not spiraling and all consumed by it. AND I will be guiding you in how to communicate with your partner, when life gets hard. Comment “unshakable” for

09/06/2026

Calm is out. Hold steady is in.

You can perform being calm. You can make people believe it. But that doesn’t help YOU. It fact pretending you’re calm when you’re not, is self abandonment. I said what I said.

Learning to hold steady is the THING. A transformational life skill.

Steady means the hard thing is fully happening, the fear, grief, overwhelm, whatever it might be, and you’re still standing INSIDE it all. Not completely consumed or swept away by it.

Now that’s powerful. That’s the goal, right?

Feeling the full weight of something and staying present with your own body while you feel it, is the whole practice. Performing calm or skipping past the feeling, is not.

Just being there and trusting you’re not going to fall apart completely just because it’s intense, is exactly what will lead you to personal power, deep self trust, confidence and EXPANSION. Internal experiences that are needed to transform you reality and live a life you choose.

This is EXACTLY what you will be learning to do, along with powerful communication, inside my upcoming masterclass UNSHAKABLE. Part 1 is happening on Sept 27th. Comment “power” for details 💖

09/06/2026

I was notorious for starting fights with my partner.

And often I’d think to myself “why am I like this?”

It’s not like I enjoyed it, obviously, but it was a definite pattern of mine.

It wasn’t until I started learning about emotional intelligence, that I finally figured out why I was such a snappy b* .

Conflict feels like relief in the moment. When you’re carrying a lot and it’s got nowhere to go, picking a fight is a way to finally let some of that pressure out.

I was always overwhelmed and close to my capacity, and so unconsciously picking a fight or snapping at a minor inconvenience was a way for me to “release”…

It worked I supposed, I felt lighter for a minute after, like something finally moved. But it wasn’t actually healthy, and it usually costs me more than it gave me.

It pushed my hubs away right when I probably needed him the most 😬

So, I figured out what was going on and finally made a change to shift this pattern.

And while it sounds simple, it has had a HUGE effect.

When I notice I am overwhelmed or nearing my limit, I choose to sit with that intensity first. All those sensations. Tightness, heaviness, pressure etc. I just let myself feel it, rather than allowing it to release via a dumb fight with my hubs.

Once I start to feel things soften and the intensity dial back, that’s when I interact with him. This is when I explain how I am feeling “I’m feeling really overwhelmed today” or “here’s what I neee from you right now”.

It more productive and creates deeper connection, rather than pushing him away.

And this has been working really well for me. Like I said it’s simple but does take practice. It’s worth it tho!

So if you know you’re snappy and like to pick a fight with your partner, I invite you to give this a try.

And make sure you come to the masterclass happening soon. Inside UNSHAKABLE I am teaching you all about how to communicate your needs (and have them met!) during the harder seasons of life. Officially launching very soon! Excited! 😆

Here’s what actually works instead, and it’s simpler than it sounds, even though it takes practice. Before you go to your partner

09/04/2026

You can’t “just breathe” your way out of anything you’re feeling.

While your breath can be used to anchor and ground you, it can’t be used to “get rid” of an emotional experience you’re having in the moment.

It’s not a way to escape, avoid or hide from what’s uncomfortable.

I teach this to my 5yo daughter.

The power I talk about in breathwork, is its ability to teach your body how to be present and STAY with those difficult feelings. To be steady even when there is inner chaos. To not get swallowed up by it all, letting it completely consume you and your day/week/month.

THAT ⬆️ is what make breathwork incredible. It teaches your body a skill that ensures you remain unshakable when things get hard.

You learn to move through an emotional s**t storm, not avoid it.

Anyways…”just breathe” is not it you guys.

I have 2 spots open for 1:1 breathwork journeys (6 or 8 weeks). If you’re in it right now, life’s challenging you, you’re going through a big shift right now, and you’re overwhelmed, unfocused and real snappy with those you love…this is for you. You will finally get to feel grounded, content and focussed again 💖 Dm me for deets.

09/03/2026

Im a wreck.

And I am at capacity.

This is a big change, and there’s so mcuh pride and excitement, but also grief and sadness.

I feel like she was born yesterday 😭

It’s been the most stressful extraordinary almost five years, and now she gets to venture into the world and start her own next little chapter.

The house will be quiet during the week.

Anyways, the point of me sharing this with you, is that it is normal, human even, to experience a myriad of polarizing emotions when you are going through a big shift in your life.

And during these moments you have two choices, get completely swallowed by it, and allow it to completely destabilize you…

…OR find steadiness during the intensity of it.

I choose steadiness. Because if I don’t, I lose my presence. And I don’t want that, neither do you.

So my only goal is to let myself feel whatever shows up, whenever it shows up, no judgement.

I let the tears come, I let the laughter come. I let the wave of grief wash over me, and I allow the excitement to turn my tummy upside down. I just LET IT HAPPEN. I choose to be with the intensity of it all instead of trying to avoid it.

And when I make this choice, I feel steady. I feel empowered.

I’m showing myself that I am capable of holding these emotions without being completely blindsided and letting it impact everything around me.

This is the hold steady energy. This is what it means to be unshakable.

So whatever big shift is happening in your life right now, know that if you intentionally let yourself feel those emotions, and stay grounded as they ebb and flow, you will be able to withstand, grow and evolve through anything.

UNSHAKABLE masterclass coming soon. Watch this space 💖

08/31/2026

The tight jaw isn’t random, I know that.

I’m stressed and overwhelmed and deep in my feels with my biggest starting kindy 😭

My jaw is tight, and my body is asking me to slow down even more so I can feel and experience my emotions, so I don’t end up frazzled and unable to be present.

Here’s the thing, we can treat these body aches and things as glitches. Annoying things to push past so we can get on with the day. But your body’s talking. And you don’t listen that tight jaw will get worse and worse and make you miserable…trust me because I let that happen once and I was not having fun.

Here’s what I’ve been learning, in real time, through the hardest season of my life so far.

We have to listen to our body when things start to feel intense. You see the goal is never to stop feeling the intensity, the fear, the overwhelm, the grief, whatever it is for you. The goal is learning to stay steady while you feel it. Present with it.

The goal is to hear the body, understand that its experiencing intensity, and slow down to be in it. This is how we don’t get swept under by it completely.

That’s such a different skill than what most of us were taught. We were taught to manage feelings, minimize them, push through them, get to the other side as fast as possible. Nobody taught us how to actually stand inside the intensity and not get knocked over by it.

Whatever season you’re in right now, a new baby, a big move, a relationship shifting, kid starting kindy 😭, your body has been sending you information the whole time. The tight chest, the racing heart, the clenched jaw. It’s saying “this is intense, let’s be present with it, so you can be grounded and aligned”.

One thing I know, is a woman who is unshakable when things get intense, is a woman who have anything she desires 💖

My new masterclass UNSHAKABLE is coming. For the woman who desires to hold steady during whatever storm comes her way. I can’t wait!! Sooooooooon 👀

08/29/2026

I’m not writing this from the other side of it, all wrapped up with a bow. I’m writing it from inside still learning it.

Here’s the tug of war I am in…

…I want to be good. Positive. Optimistic. That’s genuinely who I am. But I also want to be seen. I want it to be known that this is hard, that I’m exhausted, that I need help. And I can’t always figure out how to want both of those things at once.

So I tend to go all in on one. Keep going, stay positive, act like I’m fine. Or melt down completely and take my husband totally by surprise, because there was no in between version. No middle ground where I could be doing okay AND struggling at the same time.

Here’s what’s actually helped, and it’s so much smaller than I expected it to be.

I started giving my husband a little “report” every day. Nothing crazy. More like, if I woke up after a rough night with the baby, I’d say “hey, I had a really hard night.” If I felt overwhelmed with work, I’d say that too, in the moment, not three days later when I finally cracked.

That tiny bit of communication changed so much. Because he could actually register it and shift accordingly, instead of getting blindsided by a meltdown he never saw coming.

And the other piece, the harder piece honestly, has been getting brutally honest with myself. I don’t need to force it and keep going if the energy just isn’t there. I don’t win some kind of prize for being the most exhausted, most productive, best mom and wife on top of it all. Nobody’s handing out that trophy. And even if they were, I don’t want it anymore.

So if you’re in that same tug of war, wanting to stay positive but also wanting to be seen, try the small report. Tell one person one true, small thing about how you’re actually doing. Before it has to become a meltdown for anyone to notice.

Do you feel this pull too, wanting to stay positive but also needing to be seen in the hard parts?

I also need you to know UNSHAKABLE the masterclass is coming and it’s 🔥. That’s all I’ll say for now. Stand by 👀

08/26/2026

You HAVE changed.

And those who have been so used to you being there for them at the drop of a hat, they will be the ones who feel jaded.

They held a perception of you, that is someone with an infinite amount of space for them. At any time.

And yes, this is something you allowed to happen, probably unconsciously or due to past experience.

BUT, now you see it, now you feel the effects of it, you’re allowed to change that perception.

And to many who have been close to you, it will feel jarring. Some may take offense, it’s happened to me. But that should not stop you protecting your own capacity, nervous system and emotional bandwidth.

By setting boundaries you are finally showing yourself respect and compassion, will be lead to deep self trust and confidence.

On top of that you will@open up so much internal space to hold the things and life you really desire, because that space is no longer filled with everyone else’s emotions and energy.

I am not saying be a bi*ch. No. Deliver the boundaries with grace and kindness, and also allow them to have their response without you backtracking.

You deserve that internal space to finally go out and receive and live the life you desire.

You deserve to finally feel the ripple effect of self respect and confidence.

I encourage you to sit with the discomfort of setting those boundaries, knowing what’s on the other side 💖

Btw, taking of sitting in discomfort 🤭, my masterclass UNSHAKABLE, is coming. I’ve just added some incredible pieces to it, that I know you will love! Keep your eyes peeled for the date drop 💖

08/25/2026

Stop being a sponge.

Ok, so save this one, so you know what to do next time someone emotionally unloads onto you.

Here’s what to say to the person:

Here’s a script, literally words you can use, next time it’s happening.

“That sounds really hard. I’m here with you.”

Just witness them and listen, often that’s all they desire anyways.

Dont try to help them make the discomfort go away because that’s when you open yourself up to absorbing their emotions too and end up being in a bad mood.

You be there for them fully without taking it on.

But, if you do notice yourself absorbing it anyway, your mood beginning to shift to that lower vibe, excuse yourself for a second. Even just to the bathroom. Splash water on your face, or just stand still for ten seconds, hand on your chest, and say internally, “this is theirs, not mine.”

After they have left, or you’ve gone your separate ways, it’s important you do something for yourself. Doesn’t have to be fancy, just something that creates a little internal space for you to let go of what doesn’t belong to you. Make a coffee, a walk around the block, a five min breathwork journey (obvs hehe!), anything that make you pause and feel into the space.

This isn’t about caring less. It’s about learning where you end and they begin, so you can actually sustain showing up for the people you love, instead of burning out from it without anyone noticing.

PS: I have a really cool masterclass coming up called UNSHAKABLE. If you’re going through something right now that feels hard or challenging, then this is for you. Keep your eyes 👀 peeled 🥰

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