06/12/2026
Alec, a therapist at NPCS, recommends the book The New Rules of Marriage by Terrence Real. This book presents Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy (RLT) approach to intimate relationships. Real argues that many couples struggle because they operate from individualistic or power-based models of relationships, where one partner tries to win rather than protect the relationship itself. He reframes healthy relationships as a team-based system where partners move from control, withdrawal, or criticism toward mutual accountability and care. The book gives practical language for shifting from “me vs you” to “us vs the problem.”
Let us know if you decide to read it!
