07/09/2026
What I wish I knew when I was a young dancer
I trusted teachers who meant well, but they taught what worked for them.
Not me.
I didn’t know I could throw away the things that didn’t work for me.
Maturity in dance is education but it’s also self knowledge. Knowing your body and what it needs.
When you’re young and hungry for knowledge, you don’t always trust that inner knowing yet.
So you take everything your teachers give you and you try to make it all fit.
Some of it doesn’t.
I pushed through things I shouldn’t have.
Not because they were wrong.
They just weren’t mine.
My knees would swell, I had pain all over my body that I now know was not normal.
I kept negotiating with the pain until I finally stopped doing everyone else’s work and started creating my own.
I wanted to get somewhere.
We all do.
I learned with maturity: you can get there from the inside first.
Before you execute, before you push, before you override, listen to what your body is telling you.
You’re allowed to keep what serves you and let go of what doesn’t.
That’s not disrespect.
That’s intelligence.
If you’re in a class right now and something doesn’t feel right in your body, examine your inner knowledge. Do you have to do it or can you negotiate with either yourself or the teacher.
I wish I knew back then I didn’t have to do it just because someone told me to.
Real maturity and self knowledge as a young dancer or even as a Pilates client is the messy, ongoing work of listening to your body while learning.
Of catching yourself mid-push and asking: wait. Is this even mine?
Your body has been telling you the whole time.
Trust that.
Take what you need.
Throw away what doesn’t belong.