09/03/2026
š¬ Start the Conversation
Choose a calm timeānot during an argument.
Try saying:
āI want to talk with you about alcohol. Iām not bringing this up because I think youāve done something wrong. I care about you and want you to feel comfortable talking to me, even if something has happened or youāre unsure about a situation.ā
Then ask open-ended questions:
āWhat do you hear kids your age saying about alcohol?ā
āHave you ever been offered alcohol?ā
āWhat would you do if someone at a party was drinking?ā
āDo you ever feel pressured to drink?ā
āIs there anything youāre worried about or want to ask me?ā
ā¤ļø Keep the Door Open
Listen more than you lecture. If your teen tells you something concerning, stay calm and thank them for being honest. Use the conversation as an opportunity to talk about safety, peer pressure, consequences, and your familyās expectations.
The goal isn't one perfect conversation. It's building enough trust that your teen will come to you when they need help.
Check out Parents Lead for wonderful resources on how to get the conversation going.
https://www.parentslead.org/topics/alcohol/communicating-with-child
https://predprod-behavioralhealth.x-shops.com/files/attachments/118/communicating-child-suspect-substance-use-email-exclusion.pdf