09/08/2026
If safety is slipping at home, Plan A may be done.
If you are seeing wandering, missed meds, or unsafe cooking, treat this like a safety issue, not a “phase.” Here are a few practical next steps you can take tonight:
Immediate safety steps (tonight)
• Stay with them or have someone stay overnight if there is any wandering risk
• Lock up meds (or switch to a locked pill box) and remove extra bottles
• Disable the stove or remove k***s, and unplug small appliances when not in use
• Put car keys out of sight, and keep shoes/coat/handbag in one spot to reduce “leaving cues”
• If there is immediate danger, call 911
Supervision options (short-term)
• Rotate family coverage for 24–72 hours while you make a plan
• Hire in-home care for “high-risk hours” (evenings, overnight, early mornings)
• Ask the doctor about urgent medication review and safety concerns (falls, confusion, sleep changes)
Memory care vs assisted living (quick basics)
• Assisted living: help with daily tasks, some medication support, but not built for frequent wandering or constant cueing
• Memory care: secured setting, higher staff support, routines, and safety systems designed for dementia-related behaviors (like wandering)
What to document for tours (so you get the right placement)
• Specific incidents: what happened, when, how often, and what made it worse/better
• Wandering details: time of day, exit-seeking, getting lost, police calls, door alarms
• Med concerns: missed doses, double-dosing, refusal, swallowing issues
• Cooking risks: burned pans, leaving burners on, microwave mishaps
• Falls, ER visits, hospitalizations, and any aggression or nighttime wake-ups
• Current supports: who helps, how often, and what is no longer working
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