16/01/2026
FORGIVENESS IS NOT ABOUT CONDONING THE BEHAVIOUR IT IS COMPREHENDING IT. Identifying the essence of the emotion for yourself in relation to the negative behaviour you have witnessed, which is usually initially frustration, anger, rage, disdain. Owning up to these emotions first then transforms you to the next layer underneath which may be sorrow, grief, sadness, disappointment, feeling let down, abandoned, then these emotions transforms you to the next layer; the bottom of your or anyone's barrel which is FEAR within yourself; FEAR of it having happened at all, FEAR of yourself having not known how to have avoided it anyway, FEAR of not knowing that it was about to happen, FEAR of how you could have avoided it or still FEARFUL of avoiding the behaviour or experience again. Once you recognise the FEAR within YOURSELF, this transforms you to the KNOWING. THE ANSWERS ARE ALWAYS WTHIN YOU. Then you may literally have the ability to SEE yourself in relation to the other person and then you may SEE that putting yourself in the other persons shoes, you may be able to SEE more clearly of the WHY, WHAT WAS REALLY GOING ON.....FOR YOU and FOR THEM; the clear view, how you survived it and what couldn't you do at the time to stop it? (which is really the worst cause of frustration/angst still within you as you are usually most angry with thyself). This is OWNING your part in it, taking RESPONSIBILITY for YOUR EMOTIONS, the TRUTH OF IT allows differentiation of the burning question: was this pure intent or evil intent with their behaviour? Then and only then, will YOU be able to SEE the clarity of the other person, the circumstances; what was going on for them at the time. THIS IS COMPREHENSIVE CLARITY; COMPREHENSION with COMPASSION and therefore FORGIVENESS without condoning the experience, the behaviour..... ultimately giving rise to LIGHT & LOVE. Love for yourself and the other person. THERE'S A PLACE OUT THERE, WHERE THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG, I WILL MEET YOU THERE ❤️🙏🦋