10/18/2026
Leave Room for Wonderful
I caught myself doing something recently that I suspect many of us do.
I have an upcoming event that I'm looking forward to. Well, mostly. Based on past experiences, I've been thinking about what might go wrong, how I'll respond, and how I'll handle anything uncomfortable.
In other words, I'm preparing for problems that haven't happened yet. And they might not happen at all!
About a month ago, one of my teachers, Iman, reminded us not to spend our time trying to solve problems we don't have yet.
I believe in being prepared. Sometimes we need to establish boundaries, protect our energy, and consider how we'll respond to challenging situations.
But there's a difference between preparing for what might happen and assuming that it will happen.
And sometimes we arrive at an experience already exhausted from everything we've imagined!
I had a reminder of this recently. I was dreading my cousin's Celebration of Life, expecting it to be sad and heavy. Perfectly natural expectations, right?
But I was so pleasantly surprised! It was delightful, filled with laughter, love, wonderful memories, and the joy of being together. Yes, there was sadness, but there was so much more.
My expectations weren't unreasonable. They simply weren't what happened.
So, as I prepare for this upcoming event, I'm choosing to honor my boundaries, be mindful of my energy, and trust myself to handle whatever happens.
But I'm also leaving room for the possibility that everything might go beautifully!
After all, if we don't know what's going to happen, why automatically choose the unpleasant version?
What if, instead of asking ourselves what could go wrong, we also made room to wonder what could go wonderfully right?
Let's leave room for wonderful.
This is an abbreviated version of this week's message. To read the expanded version, please visit the Tea with the Records blog at www.janiemac.com.
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