10/11/2026
Grand Rising! I was pondering on this year and my experiences and what I’ve learned from them. And I thought I’d share how I move through life without becoming emotionally attached to the experience!
Last year an old relationship came back after 20 yrs and I saw his struggles and hate for women and I began to belief maybe when I broke up with him it made it worse. I thought I needed to help him heal. After a few months of observation his hatred towards women, how degrading he was, coupled with his extreme drinking and narcissistic behavior, I put down that experience. Truth is the old version of me who didn’t know or love herself would have completely walked out of that experience feeling like a worthless piece of s**t. And because of the work I’ve done to heal, I could recognize he was projecting how he feels about himself and everything that he said really had nothing to do with me but his feelings for his mother caused him to believe all women are just like his mom.
This year I’ve learned that not everyone deserves my time, energy and love! Whether it be a romantic relationship or friendship! I’ve learned to take people at face value instead of wanting to see the best in them even when they can’t see it. I used to be so open with my love that I wanted to be everyone’s friend not because of insecurity or fear or lack but to maybe bring kindness or build community idk. Allow people to come and go! They come in for a reason or a season because that’s how we evolve and heal through our experiences, they are there to teach you something. The right people that are meant to remain in your life will remain! Just don’t lower your self worth, love and value and definitely don’t allow someone else to determine your worth and value!
