10/16/2026
Today is my parent's anniversary. I would have bought a card, gifts, taken them out to eat to celebrate or at least been there to visit but this year is different, so I cried...a lot. I watched videos I played at the memorial just to hear his voice being silly, laughing, full of life.
Then some wonderful people reminded me that the emotional brain has no concept of time or space (he's not here) it just wants to feel connected. So i bought the card like my emotions wanted. I wrote a letter to dad in it, cried some more. When I go out to my parent's place, I'll burn it and release it.
There's no right way to grieve or honor someone's memory. Listen to your emotions, allow yourself to stay connected, remember the joy they brought to your life and be open to the signs they send to let you know they're still with you in spirit.