09/07/2026
Things you might miss about your pre-pregnancy self đ€
Your independence.
Your old routines.
Your energy.
Your body feeling familiar.
Having more spontaneity.
Quiet time to yourself.
The person you were before everything changed.
There can be so much pressure to be completely happy during pregnancy.
You're growing a baby. You should be excited. You should be grateful. You should be enjoying every moment.
But sometimes, alongside the excitement, you might find yourself missing parts of who you were before pregnancy.
Maybe you miss having your independence.
Maybe you miss your old routines, your energy, your favorite clothes, or simply feeling comfortable in your own body.
Maybe you miss being able to make plans without thinking about appointments, symptoms, or how you're feeling that day.
Maybe you miss having time that was completely your own.
And you know what?
That doesn't make you ungrateful.
Pregnancy can bring joy and grief. Excitement and uncertainty. Love and frustration. You can be looking forward to meeting your baby while also missing the version of yourself that existed before them.
Becoming a parent doesn't erase who you were.
You're still allowed to care about your identity, your friendships, your interests, your independence, your body, and the parts of your life that made you you.
There is no requirement to love every part of pregnancy to be a loving parent.
Sometimes you just need someone to say:
âIt's okay to miss who you were while you're becoming someone new.â đ€
And that's something you don't have to navigate alone. A doula can be part of your support systemânot just during labor, but as you prepare emotionally for one of the biggest transitions of your life. You deserve support as you make space for both the person you were and the person you're becoming.