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Totem is a nonprofit organization offering free, digital, peer-led support groups called Spaces. No diagnosing. No prescribing. No judgement.

Just story-telling with people who get it.

10/28/2026

Our fearless leader is getting married to the most beautiful and talented gal we know, A l i x K i d w e l l ❤️

Check out these incredible photos by Santa Barbara Photographer and swipe to the final slide for a fun throwback video(and hair style). If only first-date Bo and Alix could see themselves now! 🥹

Please leave the happy couple some well wishes in the comments, and tell us about a magical date you are still swooning over. 🥰

10/26/2026

A little bit of everything this week at Totem! 💜 Swipe through to see what's coming up!

🌸 RARE OPENING! We have TWO spots available in our six-week Emotional Fluency series! We ask that you join us for the first session and can attend at least three of the six weeks, although you'll get the most out of the experience by attending all six!

🎁 Giveaway reminder! Attend your first free Totem session between 10/21 and 12/01 and you're automatically entered to win a pair of one-of-a-kind Totem sweatpants! Already part of our community? Tell a friend!

All Spaces are virtual, peer-led, and confidential. Cameras optional!

Find your Space at totem.org or link in bio.

👀 Check back Wednesday for a little personal update from the Totem family!

10/22/2026

💡 Sometimes people don't need a solution. They just need someone to listen.

Our founder, Bo Lopker, recently sat down with VoyageLA to share the story behind Totem, including how his own experience with grief led him to recognize something missing. ➡️ A place to be understood without needing to be fixed.

Bo talks about Totem can be difficult to explain until you've actually experienced a Space. We can tell you about our Keepers and how our free peer-support groups work. But explaining how it feels is a little harder.

As Bo puts it, "Our Spaces feel like a deep breath."

The conversation continues. He discusses why keeping Spaces free matters, how technology can bring us closer to human connection, and why what happens after a Space can be just as meaningful as the hour itself.

📰 Read the full interview: https://voyagela.com/interview/meet-bo-lopker-of-totem/

Thank you VoyageLA!

If you haven't experienced a Space yet, we'd love for you to join us 💜 totem.org

10/21/2026

🎁 GIVEAWAY TIME!

The weather is getting colder, and we've officially started busting out our Totem sweatpants. Naturally, that got us thinking... why not share a pair with you?!

Perfect for exercising, PMSing, couch rotting, running errands, or joining a Totem Space from the comfort of your couch. Honestly, the possibilities are endless.

Here's how to enter:
💜 Head to totem.org/spaces and sign up for any FREE session.
💜 Attend your first session between October 21 and December 1, 2026, and you'll automatically be entered to win a pair of Totem sweatpants!

New here? Here's a little about us!
Totem is a place to connect with real people through free, online, peer led conversation groups. We talk about everything from relationships and parenting to loneliness, grief, identity, and all the messy stuff that comes with being human.

In our sessions, everyone gets a chance to share uninterupted, cameras are optional and nobody is there to fix, or give you unsolicited advice.

If you've been following us for a while but haven't joined yet, consider this your sign!

Already part of the Totem family? You're not eligible for this giveaway, but we'd love for you to tag a friend (or three!) who might enjoy a little connection and some ridiculously comfy pants.

Good luck! 🍀

Open to first-time Totem participants who attend a free session between 10/21/26 and 12/01/26. Winner will be selected at random from eligible participants.

10/19/2026

New week, new conversations. 💜

Some weeks we have a lot to say. Other weeks, we're still figuring out how to put what we're feeling into words.
There's room for both here.

Take a look at what's happening at Totem this week and find a conversation that speaks to you. No pressure to have it all figured out before you show up.

Our Spaces are free, online, and open to anyone looking for a little more human connection.

🌝Find your Space at totem.org or through the link in our bio.
New here and curious about what we're all about? Ask us a question in the comments or send us a DM. We'd love to chat!

10/18/2026

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10/15/2026

We love Halloween at Totem! 🎃

Here are some affirmations, horror movie style. Because who says you can't find a little inspiration in a scary movie?

Happy (almost) Halloween! 🖤

10/14/2026

TW: domestic violence, abuse, teen dating violence

💜 October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

First and foremost, we believe survivors. All survivors. And it was never your fault. 💜

We’re taking a moment to share a blog written by our Keeper, Claire, to bring awareness to the fact that abuse doesn’t wait until adulthood.

If there’s one thing you take away when learning about abuse, let it be this: Start by believing.

The journey doesn’t end there. There’s so much more we can learn about how to support and walk alongside survivors. But at the very least, start by believing.

Next Tuesday, Claire will be hosting a free, virtual Session for those who have experienced any form of abuse while exploring the intersection of abuse and chronic illness.

Abuse can lead to chronic illness. Chronic illness can also be used as a tactic of power and control by those causing harm.

If this resonates with you — you are not alone, and you deserve to be believed.

💜 When Abuse and Chronic Ilness Collide | October 20 | 7PM ET ➡️ https://www.totem.org/spaces/bjd347yjb/?utm_source=link

📚 When Pain Pressed Play: The Teen Dating Violence Chapter ➡️ https://www.totem.org/blog/kcu269oxv/

10/12/2026

New week, new Sessions ✨

Today is also Indigenous Peoples' Day, and we'd be remiss not to take a moment to acknowledge the traditions that helped inspire the way we gather at Totem.

For generations, many Indigenous communities have used talking circles to share stories, pass down wisdom, navigate conflict, and care for one another.

In many talking circles, a talking piece is passed from person to person. Whoever holds it has the floor, while everyone else listens without interruption.

Sound familiar?

When we began building Totem, we drew inspiration from these traditions. But somewhere along the way, we realized that introducing technology and bringing together people separated by cities, states, and even oceans meant we were creating something both different and familiar.

We weren't sitting together in a physical circle, but we were still making room for one another. So we chose to call them Spaces.

Indigenous peoples hold generations of invaluable wisdom, even as their communities have been marginalized and their traditions exploited. We believe honoring that wisdom means acknowledging where our inspiration comes from, respecting what isn't ours to claim, and refusing to make connection a privilege reserved for those who can afford it. That's one of the reasons our Spaces are free.

"I believe much trouble and blood would be saved if we opened our hearts more."
- Chief Joseph

Explore this week's sessions and reserve your spot.

Free | Virtual | Peer-led | Cameras optional

🪐 www.totem.org/spaces

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