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10/20/2026

The Onlooker play stage is also sometimes referred to as Solitary play. We see this at TimberNook all the time. Children choosing to play by themselves. Build a structure alone. Tell others "no" when asked to play.

It may be that they are trying to master a skill. Working through a physical challenge or even a cognitive challenge. They may be needing time away from others after a conflict or they simply may be in their own flow.

Saying "no" to playing with others is not rude. It is not something we need to force children to do. Supporting the whole child means we support the boundary of their "no."

10/19/2026

Kids can do hard things...and they want to! Six weeks in the making, this fort is sure to become true shelter when the rain and snow begin to fall!

Starting with just one kid and one idea, week by week more kids are getting involved with more elaborate and creative ideas. No adults helping. Just supplying what they may be interested in and watching where it goes.

10/18/2026

At LIVEfor TimberNook, we are here for the play...and playing the TimberNook way is essential to LIVEfor's three core values: Supporting the Physical, Mental and Social well-being of the child.

In order to make space for play to develop, we must understand play. Yes, the stages of play do unfold as children grow, but going back to Onlooker play, is not regression, it is regulation. When kids step back and observe others playing, they are not only preparing themselves for what they want to do, but they may also be regulating themselves before stepping in to play with others.

The ability to self-regulate, to know what we need as individuals, and having the self-confidence to do what we need despite what others may think, is vital to developing an emotionally strong individual.

10/14/2026

Most adults today will say their favorite memories were ones where they did something with friends, outside, away from adults. One where they experienced a sense of "I can face challenges and I can be okay...I can figure it out...I have a sense of control in life...life doesn't control me."

This is how we develop a strong Internal Locus Control. A belief that "I control my fate. I control how I respond to things. Things can happen to me and I am not a victim."

This is the opposite of an External Locus of Control, where one believes "I am a victim to my circumstances. Happiness depends on luck and I need others to solve my problems."

As Peter Gray described to us, research supports if we error on the side of a strong Internal Locus of Control, we are far less likely to be anxious or depressed. We will do more things that are good for us and we are less fearful of the future.

If we want our kids to be happier and less anxious, we need to let them practice doing things on their own, failing when the stakes aren't so high, and coming out the other side with just a few scratches, but not broken.

If we keep trying to protect them from experiencing the potential for failure, social conflict, or challenges that make us gasp, we are preventing them from learning they can control their own fate.

Let's remember what our childhood gave us and find ways to give this gift to our children.

10/12/2026

🌿✨ Look what happens when we give kids time, space, and opportunity!

Today at TimberNook, we witnessed incredible creativity, collaboration, and problem-solving in action. 💚

With the freedom to explore, experiment, imagine, and work together, kids turned simple opportunities into extraordinary play. They shared ideas, worked through challenges, adapted their plans, and created something uniquely their own.

No step-by-step instructions. No predetermined outcomes. Just children discovering what they can do when they have the freedom to lead their own play.

This is the power of child-led play. It’s where creativity takes root, collaboration grows, and problem-solvers emerge.

Sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do for children is step back, trust them, and give them the time and space to figure it out. 🌲

✨ Preserve free play. Reclaim childhood. Let kids be kids.

LetThemPlay

10/11/2026

10/09/2026

You know you’re a TimberNook provider when tonight’s essentials boil down to two things: a cozy hoodie and Peter Gray’s latest book. 🌲✨

Tomorrow, I’ll be meeting Peter Gray in person at the TimberNook Summit! I couldn’t be more excited or filled with gratitude.

Huge thanks to both Peter Gray and the entire TimberNook team for their incredible work and dedication to restoring childhood through authentic, play-based experiences. This week has been nothing short of amazing. Tomorrow is going to be unforgettable! 💚🔥

10/09/2026

So grateful to be with such an amazing group of TimberNook providers!