08/20/2026
đ If a snake bites you, you donât chase after the snake asking, âWhy did you bite me?â
You donât try to convince the snake that what it did was wrong.
You donât spend hours analyzing its intentions, replaying the moment, or waiting for the snake to apologize.
You tend to the wound.
You get yourself to safety.
You care for what was hurt.
You learn what you need to learn.
And you become more aware of where you place yourself next time.
People can be like that, too.
Sometimes people hurt us. Sometimes they disappoint us, reject us, misunderstand us, or behave in ways that feel deeply unfair.
And while we may desperately want them to explain themselves, take responsibility, or understand the impact theyâve had on us, our healing doesnât have to depend on their willingness to do those things.
The world is largely neutral.
People do what people do.
Things happen.
We are the ones who give those experiences meaning.
That doesnât mean the hurt isnât real. It means we get to decide what the hurt means about us.
Their behavior doesnât have to mean Iâm not enough.
Their rejection doesnât have to mean Iâm unworthy.
Their anger doesnât have to mean Iâve done something wrong.
Their inability to love us well doesnât have to mean we are difficult to love.
Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is stop chasing the snakeâŚ
âŚand turn our attention back toward ourselves.
Tend to the wound.
Learn from it.
Protect yourself.
And choose where you place your energy next.
You donât need the snake to understand why it bit you in order to heal. đđ¤
