11/03/2024
Contemplative thought for today
My youngest two are being inundated with questions on what they are going to do as they step into adulthood .
And I have fallen into the trap of answering in a way of different things they're thinking about .
I find myself doing the same for myself when people ask me about me .
I answer that I am a teacher or a healer or a mother or a writer .
Those are rolls I play, but they are not who I am at my core .
They are the result of who I am .
Who I am is a person who wants to make a difference in the world and who loves in a big way. Who I am as someone who is reflective and wants to lead and inspire who I am as a person who loves to laugh and loves to dream and loves to Have deep important conversations.
Because of who I am, those paths of mother and teacher, and Healer and writer have been passed that express who I am
But they are not who my soul is.
If I quit teaching and healing and writing, and my kids moved to the other end of the world and never spoke to me again
I would obviously be heartbroken and a void would need to be filled
But I am sure that eventually I would find a new way to express who I am.
So when people ask about my kids and what they are doing in their lives, I am going to try to remember that they are not their jobs and their education
And Be courageous enough to say who they are -
They are smart and funny, and know who they want to be around and when. They have beautiful hearts, and our compassionate and resilient. They pull together for each other and for me.
They have many many talents . They are extremely lovable, not just to me but to many.
How can I define these magnificent human beings to a job or an education educational path.
They all will make an important contribution to the world
In incredibly different ways .
By being
And hopefully that will lead to their aligned careers
But if not , the way they are will make a ripple effect of good and joy to others around them.
When they were born, I knew the gift that they brought to my world, and it wasn't a career path down the road .
Sachin brought an incredible love that I had never felt before
Zane brought pure joy
Lili brought feistiness and sweetness
Ari brought delight and completed our family .
The question is not
What are you going to do?
The question is
who are you going to be?
Love Tonia
