11/09/2026
Mindset Shift Idea
What are you expecting from yourself?
Sometimes the pressure we feel doesn’t come from anyone else. It's coming from the expectations that we've placed on ourselves and the belief that we should be doing more or getting everything right.
We can be incredibly hard on ourselves, we expect ourselves to get things right the first time and to be able to cope with everything that life throws at us and still have everything under control.
And when you don’t you are very quick to tell yourself you’ve failed.
If a friend came to you and told you they were struggling with the very thing you're struggling with, would you speak to them in the same way you're speaking to yourself? I very much doubt it.
You'd probably tell them that they're doing their best, that nobody gets everything right, that it's okay to have an off day.
So perhaps you need to offer yourself some of the same advice.
It doesn't mean lowering your standards or giving up on the things that matter to you. It simply means relieving some of the pressure.
This week, notice when you're putting pressure on yourself and ask, "Would I expect this from someone I care about?"
It could change the way you speak to yourself.
Marina