06/20/2026
If could go back and tell 280 lb me one thing it would be THIS:
stop trying to find the motivation. it’s not coming. stop trying to tinker together the perfect diet. you won’t stick to it.
not in a mean way. just in a “you’ve been waiting for this for 10 years and you think it’d be here by now if it were coming” kind of way.
motivation is a visitor. identity is your life partner.
and the whole time I was waiting to feel ready, feel motivated, feel like doing it, I was operating as someone who fundamentally didn’t believe she could.
so of COURSE I kept quitting. I was just proving myself right.
the shift wasn’t a new plan, a new diet, it wasn’t even a new workout.
it was adapting and COMMITTING to the decision (uncomfortably, imperfectly, & on a random tuesday) that I was no longer someone who quit on herself.
That I was a woman who deserved the health she desired.
Whatever you believe is true, goes.
and then doing the actual identity work to make that stick when life tried to talk me out of it (and trust me it tried)
that’s what the FormHer guide is built walk you through.
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