10/29/2026
If you follow me at all, you know I write about cancer a lot. There's a reason.
My dad was diagnosed with cancer and passed away thirteen days later. We never got to sit down and look at his treatment options, because by then there weren't any.
I think about that more than I say out loud. How many people never get the time to ask questions. How much that time is worth.
So this post is for anyone who does have that time, or who's sitting beside someone who does.
A cancer diagnosis can make it almost impossible to think straight. You walk out of an appointment and realize you didn't ask half of what you meant to ask. That's normal, and it's why I wrote down a few questions that can help open the conversation with an oncologist. Things like: What is the goal of this treatment for my cancer? How much benefit is expected for someone in my situation, and how sure are we? What could treatment mean for my day-to-day life?
You don't need to know the medical language. You're allowed to ask for an explanation again, and to ask your care team to write things down.
And if you can, bring someone. The dragonfly mug in the photos is for the people we carry with us. The rose quartz is for love. The second cup is for whoever sits beside you. π€
I also wrote about where food fits during treatment, which honestly is sometimes three spoonfuls and a nap. That counts.
https://www.nourishwiseco.com/blog/questions-to-ask-your-oncologist-about-chemotherapy.html
If you've been through this, for yourself or someone you love, what's one question you wish you'd asked sooner?
My dad passed thirteen days after his cancer diagnosis. We never got to ask questions. If you have that time, here's how to use it.