Body Compass

10/08/2026

Raise your hand if you have ever been more attracted to a five-hundred-year-old fictional male than to the very nice man asleep next to you. 🙋‍♀️ (Spoilers through Silver Flames.)

It's okay, you're among friends. We have all closed the book at 1am, looked over at a perfectly lovely husband who took the trash bins out without being asked, and felt nothing compared to what a made-up person just did with one look across a room. 😏📚

He's a good man! He's real! He remembers your mother's birthday! And somehow the one who doesn't exist gets you more excited than the flesh and bones man next to you sometimes.

As a seggs educator, I can tell you this is very good information about what lights you up, and a real man can absolutely learn it. I help couples with exactly that. 🌹

So tell me your male in the comments and I'll tell you mine. 👇 And if you'd like to tell me what's really going on at home, send me a voice note in my DMs. I would love to hear all of it. 🎙️🫶

10/07/2026

If your body has gone quiet, I wanna invite you to send me a rambling voice note and tell me what's going on.

I mean that. Open the DMs, hold the microphone button, and talk. Your story doesn't need to be tidy, and you don't need to know where to begin. Start in the middle. Ramble. Contradict yourself. I would love to hear all of it, exactly as it comes out.

What has your body been doing? What have you already tried? What do you wish someone would finally understand?

A little secret: I listen to every voice note with tea in hand and my whole heart leaning in. The longer and messier yours is, the happier I'll be. Go on, press the button. 😌

10/06/2026

10/05/2026

I know what it's like on those dark nights after the fight.

You're wondering if something in you died.

He reaches for you and your whole body does a calculation before you answer. What mood he's in. Whether it's worth starting. What it will cost you to say no.

And somewhere underneath that, quietly, the worst thought:

Maybe I just don't want him anymore.
Maybe I've gone cold.

You haven't gone cold.
You're just holding too much weight.

A body cannot be in charge of someone and open to them at the same time. That isn't a character flaw or a failure of love — it's the way bodies work.

So the wanting went quiet.

Not because you stopped loving him.
Because you never once got to rest within the relationship.

But guess what, my dear? You don't have to leave to stop carrying the whole relationship.

All you've got to do is find the crazy alchemy between you two again so that you can rest into him, and he can meet you fully just like he did at the beginning.

That's what we do inside RYER: The Inner Circle — he learns how to step up and you finally get to step down.

DM me and I'll share all of the details. It's capped at 20 couples and we've only got a few more spots left.

10/05/2026

And this miiight be why your attraction for him has disappeared 🙃😘

10/01/2026